So thers a girl who i was frends with for a long time and there was massive sexual tension between us, but shes always had a bf. Shes broken up with him recently and sure enuff we've been fooling around but no sex. but when i asked her if she wanted to make it official, as in a relationship, she says shes not sure and she needs time and enjoy being single. So my question is, is she a flake? shes just using me for physical fun? and is there any way i can turn this around? Im really not sure wat to do, but im getting pretty attached so any advice u guys can give wud be great.
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
What should i do in this situation
- Thread starter 75%PUA
- Start date
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
daygameguy
Master Don Juan
looks like she's just not the type you are looking for. Have fun with her and move on.75%PUA said:So thers a girl who i was frends with for a long time and there was massive sexual tension between us, but shes always had a bf. Shes broken up with him recently and sure enuff we've been fooling around but no sex. but when i asked her if she wanted to make it official, as in a relationship, she says shes not sure and she needs time and enjoy being single. So my question is, is she a flake? shes just using me for physical fun? and is there any way i can turn this around? Im really not sure wat to do, but im getting pretty attached so any advice u guys can give wud be great.
One of the most powerful things you can do is create a jealously plot. I don't have experience in this, but if you can somehow get a diff girl and create a plot of huge jealousy, she might actually start wanting to have an exclusive relationship with you.
sounds to me like she's using you as a crutch. The key issue here is
daygameguy is on the right track. if you want anything more than a badroom wreslting partner, you need to show that she isn't your only hope. Socialize with other girls, go out on dates with them, and start to back away from this chick. She'll either
A: feel something for you and start giving you more clear answers
or
B: Go and find another **** to gobble.
Either way, you come out on top.
Good hunting mate.
That's a hell of a red flag right there for a relationship. "enjoy being single"? She's playing the field and sees you as a fallback option at the moment.but when i asked her if she wanted to make it official, as in a relationship, she says shes not sure and she needs time and enjoy being single.
daygameguy is on the right track. if you want anything more than a badroom wreslting partner, you need to show that she isn't your only hope. Socialize with other girls, go out on dates with them, and start to back away from this chick. She'll either
A: feel something for you and start giving you more clear answers
or
B: Go and find another **** to gobble.
Either way, you come out on top.
Good hunting mate.
I.A.F.Y.B.
Master Don Juan
Don't over analyze this situation. To me it seems she is just enjoying being single. She probably doesn't want a relationship right now cause she just got out of one. And she likes being single at the moment. Why not just fvck her a few times.
I am going to tell you this just like Jim Mora told in press confrence with regards to playoffs, substituting that with the word relationship.75%PUA said:when i asked her if she wanted to make it official, as in a relationship,.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p3-eavMSBnk
"ahh Relationship??!! don't talk about relationship!!, are you kidding me?? relationship??!"
You haven't even fvcked her and yet are uttering those words??!! You are most likely a rebound guy so at this point be happy when or if you are getting her poon and don't add anything or hope for anything.
What you should really be concern is that no sex part because it tells me that she isn't so hot for you if she doesn't let you fvck her, and more likely using you until someone else comes along who will make her want to spread her legs.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Which in Woman-speak means "Not with you."she says shes not sure
You don't ask a woman if she wants a relationship with you - she has to ask you instead. Otherwise, you put her on the spot, and if she's not wanting it at that moment, she's either going to dump you or let you down gently.
Let's hope so!shes just using me for physical fun?
My advice would be: don't get so attached. Don't want someone who doesn't want you, it never goes well.but im getting pretty attached so any advice u guys can give wud be great.
Pull back some, give it some space, get busy with other things and see if she pursues if you distance yourself.