"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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What should I do here?

timmylivingalie

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I been talking to this hb8 chick late teens to early 20's for awhile now she works at a store I go to and we banter back in forth and have very good rapport and she seems very attracted to me. She even get's mad if I go through another cashiers line. Today the timing felt right to ask her on a date but she turned me down. But she was still showing ioi's after that. Should I ignore her and move on? keep bantering and try to build more attraction and comfort and ask her again in a couple weeks. Or try to make her jealous?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Peaks&Valleys

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Cashiers, waitresses, bartenders, hair stylists, receptionists, etc. They're all a confusing bunch. They're paid to be nice to you BUT you're someone special....right?

It could be if you caught this chick out in town she'd be all over you. I feel, with these dames, when they're at work, there's some secret inbred code that makes them automatically turn a guy down....even if she was hoping for you to ask her out.

She's at work, which means you come to her, she'll always be there. It doesn't mean she doesn't like you. But she's in an environment where she feels she needs to be professional....plus, you'll come back around, she knows this, she's going to make you work for it.

When you're at a bar or club and you meet a girl (who's not working) it's now or never. There usually isn't any second chances.

I wouldn't give up, just make sure you play it cool next time, don't be all butt hurt or wierded out.
 

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Peaks&Valleys said:
Cashiers, waitresses, bartenders, hair stylists, receptionists, etc. They're all a confusing bunch. They're paid to be nice to you BUT you're someone special....right?
Not only that, they are in "careers"where fvcktards constantly hit on them. Their ego and entitlement are through the roof, so they have the freedom to pick and choose. OP, you didn't make the cut so stop living a lie.
 
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