"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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What should I do, given these mixed signals?

koolkert

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One girl will give really intense looks that are pretty much the definition of eye-f***ing, I'll see her looking at her shoes and shyly smiling to herself when I'm talking to friends, frequently looking over at me when I don't say "hi", give some sexual body "look at my butt" body language, smile and give submissive eye contact when I talk to her, breaking into a huge smile when we happen to cross paths and her guard isn't up. So far sounds shy. Though she's definitely an introvert.

BUT...she'll often act completely nonchalant and indifferent, barely responding, showing no body language change, not looking or making any effort to engage, maybe even consciously avoiding eye contact, acting curt and barely acting friendly.

That polar opposite hot/cold behavior is rubbing me the wrong way and makes her seem insincere, or just like she isn't that interested, or playing some game. Shyness might be a factor, but that doesn't mean it should be an excuse. How should I respond/react to the behavior? I don't want to be a reactive jerk obviously.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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wifehunter

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Give it time. Go slow. Im in the same position with one of my plates. And yes, dont be reactive. That would ruin it. Show self control.

Mine will complete freeze up on me, then look upset if I'm talking to other girls.

When I back off, she starts looking for ways to interact with me.
 
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Lozboss

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Either ask her out or forget her.

Be a man and take charge, lead her emotions.

If she continues to play games then bin her. Simple.
 

Von

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Got similar situation.

Been NC for 2-3 weeks since last time we saw, where she left piss off cause I had a good time with another girl.... by good time I mean talking friendly for 10minutes lol... while my average was 1 min and with her I was been distant.

Advise, ask her out will give you a clear idea but keep your life going
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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