"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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LoveBOT

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it always seem's that no girls ever approach me even though i'm one sexy *****.

I mean not to be modest but i'm a good looking guy with an amazing amount of confidence and show it off alot....i figure it might be because i'm too "outta there league" and they think they don't stand a chance with me.

that sounds arrogant...but i'm just happy with my body and like to make it known :D
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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If you have "an amazing amount of confidence" why are you not approaching them?

Men approach.....women get approached.

In my experience confident people never wait for life to happen to them.....they go out and make it happen.

EDIT:Arrogance isn't too much self confidence.....it's a lack of self confidence
 
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You sound like my brother! :)

My bros very good looking but lacks confidence.

Either your overestimating your confidence or you need to go out more where there are women abound. Or just say Hi.

Should do the trick. Another thing? Whats your bodyfat %?
 
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Originally posted by LoveBOT
it always seem's that no girls ever approach me even though i'm one sexy *****.

I mean not to be modest but i'm a good looking guy with an amazing amount of confidence and show it off alot....i figure it might be because i'm too "outta there league" and they think they don't stand a chance with me.

that sounds arrogant...but i'm just happy with my body and like to make it known :D
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i guess you answered your own question. women hardly approach men but will give you subtle signs as comming as close to you. i dont think women will just come at you like whats up baby.. except they are young.. mainly younger girls approach me. and im sick of it. and also how you act matters if you are goodlooking and act like you dont know you are or care then thats better in my own experience. some guys are really funny i saw this one dude tonite who thought he was all that and he walked like he was on a catwalk.. hes whole presence was so canned and fake that girls spotted this and laugh at him.. dont over do all that im the king bull**** . dont be fake and if you wana be fake do it well.
that poor dude embarassed himself, maybe he was a member of this site haha.. i know some dudes take this **** too far
 
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Just be laid back. Chill out. Don't feel the need to make a witticism at every oppurtunity to hide your lack of confidence.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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