DonJuanabe
Master Don Juan
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Over the last few months I've come to realize that, in the game of dating, you should mirror how a girl dresses. Before that I always wore very casual, comfortable clothes. Jeans, sweatshirt, etc.
One can argue a man should dress how he wants, period. I did that with my oneitis back in the spring, and on two occasions she was angry that I was dressed in jeans while she was looking fine, and while I place value on doing what I want, you have to ask yourself: which is more important, wearing what you want or getting/keeping the girl you want? Remember a girl's feelings for you change bit by bit as little things accumulate.
Women dress based on their feelings, and if a woman is dressed very well it is generally because she feels or wants to feel sexy or romantic. That's why clothes are so important to women -- it's how they portray how they feel about themselves to the world around them. They rarely verbalize how they feel. As Rollo says "the medium is the message".
Since the spring my wardrobe has increased dramatically, both in quantity and quality. Four suits. Baggy sweaters replaced with form fitting sweaters. Tons of fitted dress shirts. While I like how pleats look they are also designed for overweight men, so now the pleats are gone. On a date I wear dress shoes rather than comfortable moc style shoes.
Women are solipsistic and judgmental. A woman will interpret how you are dressed with both your opinion of yourself and your opinion of her. Thus, you have to decide what's important: getting/keeping the girl or doing your own thing.
One can argue a man should dress how he wants, period. I did that with my oneitis back in the spring, and on two occasions she was angry that I was dressed in jeans while she was looking fine, and while I place value on doing what I want, you have to ask yourself: which is more important, wearing what you want or getting/keeping the girl you want? Remember a girl's feelings for you change bit by bit as little things accumulate.
Women dress based on their feelings, and if a woman is dressed very well it is generally because she feels or wants to feel sexy or romantic. That's why clothes are so important to women -- it's how they portray how they feel about themselves to the world around them. They rarely verbalize how they feel. As Rollo says "the medium is the message".
Since the spring my wardrobe has increased dramatically, both in quantity and quality. Four suits. Baggy sweaters replaced with form fitting sweaters. Tons of fitted dress shirts. While I like how pleats look they are also designed for overweight men, so now the pleats are gone. On a date I wear dress shoes rather than comfortable moc style shoes.
Women are solipsistic and judgmental. A woman will interpret how you are dressed with both your opinion of yourself and your opinion of her. Thus, you have to decide what's important: getting/keeping the girl or doing your own thing.
