"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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So my gf was talking yesterday and this is how a certain statement she made that made me uncomfortable.

"They said to me that they think that in a relationship hands go in places"

I'm like who's "they?" She's like oh it's someone.

Now call me insecure but wen a woman refers to her gfs she will always say "friend" or my "gf."

So I press her on it and she says it's a "bunch" of friends. When I put the heat on, she then says it's a girl but I didn't want to tell you because you know her as i don't wanna expose her.lol


I only know one of her friends and the story really doesn't seem like something to hide due to privacy.

Yea I know, insecurity is at large but I get this gut feel the girl is a liar. Small things like these add up. They have been for like a year.

She's bpd I believe. She's so convincing that she loves me but these "red flags" make me think otherwise.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Grab her @ss, pull her crotch to yours, lightly squeeze her into you and say "Where are you getting that idea from?" or "Oh yeah?". The way I read what she said it sounds like she wants you to touch her.
 
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AttackFormation said:
Grab her @ss, pull her crotch to yours, lightly squeeze her into you and say "Where are you getting that idea from?" or "Oh yeah?". The way I read what she said it sounds like she wants you to touch her.
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Its deff not that. We were talking about sex and how shes a virgin and she wants to save sex till marriage. We are both from the same religion and i understand the seriousness of virginity but im still poppin that soon.

My point tho is why act shady? Theres deff something up when behavior like that pops up.
 
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Its deff not that. We were talking about sex and how shes a virgin and she wants to save sex till marriage. We are both from the same religion and i understand the seriousness of virginity but im still poppin that soon.

My point tho is why act shady? Theres deff something up when behavior like that pops up.
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Her statement doesn't make sense to me then. I don't see why it's worth reading so much into both because it doesn't and in general, who cares what bullsh!t she's peddling with her friends? you're not seriously considering marrying a girl with BPD anyway. Also don't believe these "virgin" girls when they say they want to save sex for marriage, I had a girl like that myself who would drag me into and meet me in public restrooms where we could make out/touch/dry fvck, point being she may well be a virgin in technical name only.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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AttackFormation said:
Her statement doesn't make sense to me then. I don't see why it's worth reading so much into both because it doesn't and in general, who cares what bullsh!t she's peddling with her friends? you're not seriously considering marrying a girl with BPD anyway. Also don't believe these "virgin" girls when they say they want to save sex for marriage, I had a girl like that myself who would drag me into and meet me in public restrooms where we could make out/touch/dry fvck, point being she may well be a virgin in technical name only.
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oh no i know. Ive ate her out and done near abouts everything xcpet for sex lol. Shes longing for the D just cant admit it. Im seeing her soon so im deff gna pop that shizz.

Ive tried to test her and say to her that I want to break up etc etc and she cried and begs me back. She wants me top put limits on her eg tll her she cant wear 'this' or 'that.'Shes keen on marrying etc.

I like the girl. But recent behavior since she mentioned a dude she was partnered with at uni has been kinda off. Eg not responding to texts as quick and shady comments.
 
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"They said to me that they think that in a relationship hands go in places"

Honestly I do not know what that would mean literally.

Figuratively though they are just words and I think you remember ....

Actions not words

Don't let her sway you.
 
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blind_one said:
"They said to me that they think that in a relationship hands go in places"

Honestly I do not know what that would mean literally.

Figuratively though they are just words and I think you remember ....

Actions not words

Don't let her sway you.
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sorry it was 'in relationships hands go to places they shouldnt'

'dont let her sway you' elaborate?
 
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sorry it was 'in relationships hands go to places they shouldnt'

'dont let her sway you' elaborate?
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I still do not get it , might be because English is not my native language.

What I meant by dont let her sway you is, that you should keep grounded and centered around your goals, petty gossip or bull**** shouldn't affect you in anyway shape of form
 
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I still don't get it either, it doesn't make sense. What the fvck is this b1tch trying to say? just forget this petty gossip bull**** man.

blind_one's explication of "don't let her sway you" is on point, I mean to say the same thing.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Thanks bros. I think your right. Looking in to it too much.

I need to stay more centred. Recently I slipped up but I'm gonna put this insecure phase behind me and keep going.

Just wanna pump and then proceed.
 
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