"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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What seems to be going wrong, could I be giving off a desperate vibe?

Adakkon

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Well it's been almost two months since my last HB, so I've been pushing myself to sarge more and more during the weekends, but they have all been failures lately.

A few nights ago I thought I was doing good with this one set of HBs at a party, they were laughing constantly, I felt I was projecting confidence, they were all single, I didn't tease much but I felt like I was on a joking spree and they all kept laughing so I stuck mostly to that, but as I tried to isolate one of the girls I got the distinct vibe of not interested. I trust my instincts because they have never really gone wrong with womens interests, so I started to focus on a different one in a group, got the same vibe, then started focusing on the last and least attractive one, which went sort of mixed, could have probably called her up the next day but didn't really want to.

Only thing I can think of that might have gone wrong is that I stayed with that group talking to them for pretty much the entire party and maybe even though I didn't feel like I was, I was looking desperate with my non stop flirtation? The parties I go to are usually medium size, and in this case they were the only grouping of single women there so it's not like I could really go around flirting with other girls intermitedly.

Is flirting/working on a group for a few hours too much? Could I have been giving off a desperate vibe by only talking to them (and a friend who came over to flirt with a 4th girl, who ended up wanting to hook up with him).
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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ryannath

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Yes, you were acting desperate. You were out on the prowl looking for some a$$ and they knew it because you spent so much time with them and not doing other things. Most of the time when I get a girl interested in me, it's not from me hitting on them, it's by me having a good time, and being a fun guy around everyone. By having high value. Not from hitting on them.
 
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Why didn't you isolate one of them - instead of becoming their chum!:rolleyes:

"Hey, would you like to dance?"
 

resilient

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You needed a wing to isolate. The only way I could have saw the HB trying to win you back would be through negs and qualifiers. Once she proved herself to you, than she would have complied to isolation. Up until that point they saw through your charades.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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TheHoff

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I read somewere that you should think of the girl your chatting up as having a hairy ass!! that would definately give off the vibe that your not desperate
 
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