"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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What race are you?

What race are you?

  • White

    Votes: 39 57.4%
  • Black

    Votes: 11 16.2%
  • Asian

    Votes: 9 13.2%
  • Spanish

    Votes: 5 7.4%
  • Indian

    Votes: 4 5.9%

  • Total voters
    68

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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seagull

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Where's the option for mixed? And Spanish is a nationality, not a race.
 

Cry For Love

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Black Power, bruthas. Its the only way to go, the natural PU race, with all due respect to our white and asian hoodies
 

5string

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WTF is this? Who on here cares what color somebody is?

I don't.

In the end, we're all unorganized grabastic pieces of amphibian sh!t.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Veridin

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seagull said:
Where's the option for mixed? And Spanish is a nationality, not a race.
It means Latino, of course. And before anyone says that's an ethnicity not a race, I say it's very odd then that you can always tell by appearance who is Latino in Los Angeles and who isn't. To be even more exact it should say "South American Indian/Mestizo" I suppose.

Should be Jewish and Arab in the poll also, but what the hell. Funny that other groups are so far represented in a higher percentage than their part of the Western population, I would have thought it would follow demographics fairly evenly. Let's see if it stays that way. Then again the forum isn't only for Westerners.
 

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Veridin said:
It means Latino, of course. And before anyone says that's an ethnicity not a race, I say it's very odd then that you can always tell by appearance who is Latino in Los Angeles and who isn't. To be even more exact it should say "South American Indian/Mestizo" I suppose.

Should be Jewish and Arab in the poll also, but what the hell. Funny that other groups are so far represented in a higher percentage than their part of the Western population, I would have thought it would follow demographics fairly evenly. Let's see if it stays that way. Then again the forum isn't only for Westerners.
You meant Hispanic.
 

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Cry For Love said:
Black Power, bruthas. Its the only way to go, the natural PU race, with all due respect to our white and asian hoodies
That's hilarious. It's the only way to go? Ok, I'll be black from now on. You convinced me.
 

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I'm blue, I'm a smurf!

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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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escaleraroyal

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cool I see the majority are black and white guys in the forum. cool!. It's good to know.
 

comic_relief

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Maxtro said:
I'm half American white and half Cuban, yet I can only choose one...
stop your b!tching and this is the problem with race. Besides it don't freaking matter if your white, black, or a smurf (proud smurf right here), what matters is the results of your game AND your character

- comic_relief
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Doctrine Dark

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Black and Portuguese here.

But I consider myself Black, so yeah.
 

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What race you are is determined by your DNA mix. You can't tell by simply looking at someone's skin color.
 

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Veridin said:
It means Latino, of course. And before anyone says that's an ethnicity not a race, I say it's very odd then that you can always tell by appearance who is Latino in Los Angeles and who isn't. To be even more exact it should say "South American Indian/Mestizo" I suppose.

Should be Jewish and Arab in the poll also, but what the hell. Funny that other groups are so far represented in a higher percentage than their part of the Western population, I would have thought it would follow demographics fairly evenly. Let's see if it stays that way. Then again the forum isn't only for Westerners.
wow such ignorance, hispanic/latino is not a race and not all the people in southamerica, mexico, central america, look the same

The majority of people from South American, Mexico and Central America are mixed (mestizo) between native america (indigenous) and the caucasian race (Spaniards, Italian, French, Portuguese, etc). That is the reason why some Latinos look more caucasian and have lighter skin, hair, eyes than others .. that is why some latinos look more indigenous than others .. how white or how indigenous you look depends on how much percentage of each race you have in your dna (some latinos might have no indigenous dna), and the only way to find out is to get a dna test such as the one done in georges lopez show

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MJW0GPHRW38

On top of that, the majority of latinos who live in los angeles are mexican and central americans .. in southamerica there is a bigger population of white people as in having white skin, light hair, light eyes (features of the white race) .. so might have crossed paths with a white south american many times in los angeles and you didnt even know because the person looks white, you assumed he was white north american

According to the CIA

Argentina
white (mostly Spanish and Italian) 97%, mestizo (mixed white and Amerindian ancestry), Amerindian, or other non-white groups 3%
https://www.cia.gov/library/publications/the-world-factbook/geos/ar.html

Uruguay
Ethnic groups:
white 88%, mestizo 8%, black 4%, Amerindian (practically nonexistent)
https://www.cia.gov/library/publications/the-world-factbook/geos/uy.html

Chile
Ethnic groups:
white and white-Amerindian 95.4%, Mapuche 4%, other indigenous groups 0.6% (2002 census)
https://www.cia.gov/library/publications/the-world-factbook/geos/ci.html

Spanish is not a race, is a language ... the terms Latinos/Hispanic are incorrect.
People from south america, central america, mexico are NOT Latinos NOR Hispanic

Hispanics are people from Spain, the word Hispanic comes from hispania, as in Espana (Spain in Spanish), in only refers to people born in Spain.

Latino refers to the Europeans whose native language comes from Latin, such as Spaniards, Portuguese, French, Italians and Rumanian's .. it only applies to those Europeans.

People from south-america, central-american and mexico are most of the time mixed people and in many countries from southamerica, people from many different races.

"Latinos" are the most stupid and ignorant ethnicity because they assume a label (latino, hispanics) that it doesn't belong to them, many of them dont even realize that they are mixed between the white race and indigenous.

Im not hispanic and Im not latino, Im a white/indigenous mixed person from south american and proud of it.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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