escaleraroyal
Master Don Juan
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Just curious what race are you?
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
It means Latino, of course. And before anyone says that's an ethnicity not a race, I say it's very odd then that you can always tell by appearance who is Latino in Los Angeles and who isn't. To be even more exact it should say "South American Indian/Mestizo" I suppose.seagull said:Where's the option for mixed? And Spanish is a nationality, not a race.
You meant Hispanic.Veridin said:It means Latino, of course. And before anyone says that's an ethnicity not a race, I say it's very odd then that you can always tell by appearance who is Latino in Los Angeles and who isn't. To be even more exact it should say "South American Indian/Mestizo" I suppose.
Should be Jewish and Arab in the poll also, but what the hell. Funny that other groups are so far represented in a higher percentage than their part of the Western population, I would have thought it would follow demographics fairly evenly. Let's see if it stays that way. Then again the forum isn't only for Westerners.
That's hilarious. It's the only way to go? Ok, I'll be black from now on. You convinced me.Cry For Love said:Black Power, bruthas. Its the only way to go, the natural PU race, with all due respect to our white and asian hoodies
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
stop your b!tching and this is the problem with race. Besides it don't freaking matter if your white, black, or a smurf (proud smurf right here), what matters is the results of your game AND your characterMaxtro said:I'm half American white and half Cuban, yet I can only choose one...
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
hehehevatoloco said:Human or Amazing. Take your pick.
wow such ignorance, hispanic/latino is not a race and not all the people in southamerica, mexico, central america, look the sameVeridin said:It means Latino, of course. And before anyone says that's an ethnicity not a race, I say it's very odd then that you can always tell by appearance who is Latino in Los Angeles and who isn't. To be even more exact it should say "South American Indian/Mestizo" I suppose.
Should be Jewish and Arab in the poll also, but what the hell. Funny that other groups are so far represented in a higher percentage than their part of the Western population, I would have thought it would follow demographics fairly evenly. Let's see if it stays that way. Then again the forum isn't only for Westerners.
https://www.cia.gov/library/publications/the-world-factbook/geos/ar.htmlArgentina
white (mostly Spanish and Italian) 97%, mestizo (mixed white and Amerindian ancestry), Amerindian, or other non-white groups 3%
https://www.cia.gov/library/publications/the-world-factbook/geos/uy.htmlUruguay
Ethnic groups:
white 88%, mestizo 8%, black 4%, Amerindian (practically nonexistent)
https://www.cia.gov/library/publications/the-world-factbook/geos/ci.htmlChile
Ethnic groups:
white and white-Amerindian 95.4%, Mapuche 4%, other indigenous groups 0.6% (2002 census)
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.