"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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What openers do you usually use?

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Eternal_water

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Other than "HI"

how do you start the conversation, and when you do use "HI........" what do you follow up the high with?

If you ca remember any examples of openers that worked well that would be great
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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really often i use situation.
commenting on something happening around us, if i need an information etc.

the 'hi' opener, i dont have a great experience with that, so i cant tell you how to take it further.
and BTW i'm looking for it too cause i wanna use it ! :)
 
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Anything open-ended, as long as it's not deemed societally offensive.

If she's in class, ask her how she finds it or the lecturer. if it's at work, ask her how long she's been there. if it's in the gym, ask her how often she goes there.
 
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ilikecharlene said:
Anything open-ended, as long as it's not deemed societally offensive.

If she's in class, ask her how she finds it or the lecturer. if it's at work, ask her how long she's been there. if it's in the gym, ask her how often she goes there.
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Agreed!

Context clues are often the easiest ways to initiate a conversation. Observe the environment, and ask an open-ended question about it. No need for anything fancy, though if you are the witty/funny type, that works very well too, especially if you can make 'em laugh....
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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