"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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What one month here has done for me (and why I still need looots of work)

lonewolf17

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So about a month after I got my act together (joining this site, getting new wardrobe and haircut, changing my attitute), I've had a few experiances.

I briefly dated an hb7..but really screwed up on a few occasions and I believe she has lost interest. Don't blame her, my fault, I moved on without a batting an eyelash.

Then there was a chick who is basically HB10 - an actual model - who seemed interested in me, giving a lot of hints... but honestly she is dumb as ****..and also I did what no DJ should do - I told myself I wasn't good enough for her, and just because of her looks too. I'm still insecure in myself, I need to work on that.

Then came the first time I got to reject! It's interesting finally being on the other end of the table. She's a nice girl, but simply too, well, wholesome for me..

Okay now here is where the next girl comes in. HB9, really cute girl..well I think she's sort of noticed me since my little transformation, possibly checking me out a couple times..Never really paid much attention until I started talking to her more, and right away we sort of got into a really funny flow of conversation and one thing led to another and she actually pulled kino on ME. It's usually a good sign if they use it on YOU first, right?

So I've been sort of gaming for a couple days, but I'm afraid. I feel like I'm slipping because she makes me nervous. I'm pretty witty, but if I'm nervous I say the stupidest things...I'm afraid she is going to just ljbf me if I don't tighten up on that front..

Anyways, going out with her tomorrow - not sure what we are dong yet, but whatever it is we do I'm really afraid she's going to make me too nervous..I still have it in my mind that I am not the prize..I was able to do it with a the first and third girl I mentioned no problem, but when I'm out with someone of pretty high caliber I can't help but feel like I am the one who is being judged and SHE is the selector. This is my biggest problem.

What would you say is the best advice for me to solve this issue with her - or any girl really. I know I need to see myself as the prize, but with a really nice girl like that it's really hard to just 'do it'...What do you guys say?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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SinJester

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Don't rate girls on the number scale unless you view yourself as a 9 or higher.
 

Quiksilver

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Changing is difficult, but it gets easier, trust me. Just a tip from first hand experience... Don't lose your desire to keep improving, i got stuck in a rut last year because i got complacent.
 

Yookiwooki

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I would make sure i'm still keeping my game on with other girls. You dont want to get attached to a girl nomatter what "number" she is until your at least in a LTR
 

Supremo

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SinJester said:
Don't rate girls on the number scale unless you view yourself as a 9 or higher.
Or... just do the 0-1 scale.

0 being you wouldn't **** her
1 being you would.

Forget who made this up, but props.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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