"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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What one month here has done for me (and why I still need looots of work)

lonewolf17

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So about a month after I got my act together (joining this site, getting new wardrobe and haircut, changing my attitute), I've had a few experiances.

I briefly dated an hb7..but really screwed up on a few occasions and I believe she has lost interest. Don't blame her, my fault, I moved on without a batting an eyelash.

Then there was a chick who is basically HB10 - an actual model - who seemed interested in me, giving a lot of hints... but honestly she is dumb as ****..and also I did what no DJ should do - I told myself I wasn't good enough for her, and just because of her looks too. I'm still insecure in myself, I need to work on that.

Then came the first time I got to reject! It's interesting finally being on the other end of the table. She's a nice girl, but simply too, well, wholesome for me..

Okay now here is where the next girl comes in. HB9, really cute girl..well I think she's sort of noticed me since my little transformation, possibly checking me out a couple times..Never really paid much attention until I started talking to her more, and right away we sort of got into a really funny flow of conversation and one thing led to another and she actually pulled kino on ME. It's usually a good sign if they use it on YOU first, right?

So I've been sort of gaming for a couple days, but I'm afraid. I feel like I'm slipping because she makes me nervous. I'm pretty witty, but if I'm nervous I say the stupidest things...I'm afraid she is going to just ljbf me if I don't tighten up on that front..

Anyways, going out with her tomorrow - not sure what we are dong yet, but whatever it is we do I'm really afraid she's going to make me too nervous..I still have it in my mind that I am not the prize..I was able to do it with a the first and third girl I mentioned no problem, but when I'm out with someone of pretty high caliber I can't help but feel like I am the one who is being judged and SHE is the selector. This is my biggest problem.

What would you say is the best advice for me to solve this issue with her - or any girl really. I know I need to see myself as the prize, but with a really nice girl like that it's really hard to just 'do it'...What do you guys say?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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SinJester

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Don't rate girls on the number scale unless you view yourself as a 9 or higher.
 

Quiksilver

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Changing is difficult, but it gets easier, trust me. Just a tip from first hand experience... Don't lose your desire to keep improving, i got stuck in a rut last year because i got complacent.
 

Yookiwooki

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I would make sure i'm still keeping my game on with other girls. You dont want to get attached to a girl nomatter what "number" she is until your at least in a LTR
 

Supremo

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SinJester said:
Don't rate girls on the number scale unless you view yourself as a 9 or higher.
Or... just do the 0-1 scale.

0 being you wouldn't **** her
1 being you would.

Forget who made this up, but props.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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