What now ?

[Bible_Belt]

It's the womans age that matters to the baby, not the man's. After 30, risk of downs syndrome goes up dramatically. Alec baldwin is in his 60s and has 6 young children.

And this idea that children will take care of you when you get old is a nice fairy tale. There were about 45 beds in my grandmother's nursing home. I was there every evening for about four months until she died. My other family was there every day. Between us, we hardly ever saw anyone else's family, other than the couple of times a resident passed away. Then they all rush in to cry fake tears and go through the dead person's stuff to see what they can take.

 

[ubercat]

I LL keep this brief. men and women are meant to complement each other. You guys who see this whole thing as a power struggle are doing it wrong. Choosing wrong. Being too reactive. Not managing frames. Not building the 'us' bubble. It's a team lead gig

 

[Bingo-Player]

And this idea that children will take care of you when you get old is a nice fairy tale. There were about 45 beds in my grandmother's nursing home. I was there every evening for about four months until she died. My other family was there every day. Between us, we hardly ever saw anyone else's family, other than the couple of times a resident passed away. Then they all rush in to cry fake tears and go through the dead person's stuff to see what they can take.

Indeed both on my mother and fathers side hardly anyone is interested in the 70 & 80 year old relatives

I visit my grandmother twice a month for the simply fact i know nobody else would bother , my mother ( her daughter ) wants nothing to do with her and hasn't done for the last 10 years

Grandmother has now become naturally very bitter and is constantly complaining nobody gives a sh1t about her

I usually have to give an entire Sunday up to drive to her and spend a couple of hours there , two of them sundays a month is the absolute maximum i can commit from my own life , I'm busy and will get busier

My father constantly complains that his father is a pain in the A$$

A lot of this desire for a man to have a family comes from good time snapshots , reality is most men in families want out or the very least 6 months away from it

This includes a guy i work with two young kids he says its like a 24 hour endurance contest and there are no days off

Be careful what you wish for