"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
What now?
- Thread starter True Wolf
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
TyTe`EyEs
Master Don Juan
You should eat more. Also, add squats to your routine if you don't already to them.
chaddycakes21
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Bulk Up!!
Add more size w/ maintaining a low bodyweight. Lift hard! One major muscle group a day w/ a minor workout for another muscle(Tri w/ little bi). Take a day off a week. Eat 1.5grams of protein per pound you weight. Sleep at least 6-8 hours a night,anything else is overkill. Just give that a shot and you will see a difference in a couple of weeks!
you need WBA's guide to growth:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=110033
(just don't call it lean bulking, he hates that term, relatively accurate though it may be)
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=110033
(just don't call it lean bulking, he hates that term, relatively accurate though it may be)
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Skilla_Staz
Master Don Juan
blinkwatt said:
A. One major muscle group a day with a minor workout for another muscle? I hope you mean a Bench/Squat/Deadlift oriented workout with some assistance exercises for the necessary muscle groups, while focusing mainly on compound lifts.
B. More than 8 hours of sleep is overkill eh? Says who? I'd recommend getting 9-10 hours of sleep. Yeah. Thats a lot.
C. Why settle at 1.5? Bump it up to two. It's tough. Believe me. You'll pack on some mass though.
As for the OP, gain some damn muscle lol. Get a haircut too. You're lean, but you're skinny as f*ck. BTW, we can't tell too much about your "weak areas" due to the fact that we have a single front flex picture. No back, no legs, no other poses. Can't really see the triceps or the full peak on the biceps. Plus, that seems to be some very flattering lighting. Take a picture in broad daylight, then come back.
- Gain some weight, just eat anything. In my opinion you're too thin, although many people like bodyfats that low, I think it looks ill.
- Get some muscle, you don't really have any at all. Your forearms look non-existent.
- Get a haircut, seriously.
- Get some muscle, you don't really have any at all. Your forearms look non-existent.
- Get a haircut, seriously.
True Wolf said:
You are not muscular at all, you are just skinny and defined. You surely look better than your average joe, but nothing more than that, since what you got now is attainable by most people in no more than a couple of months.
Just eat a lot and don't worry about bodyfat. When you have that bodyfat but you weigh AT LEAST 30 lbs more, you'll ask what to do.
BustedKnucks
Don Juan
Eat more, a lot more. Keep working out and eat about 2.5x your weight in pounds in grams of protein a day. Cut your hair, go tanning.
You look physically fit, but not strong. Decrease your reps and do more weight. For example, if you are doing 3x10 bench presses at 150/160/175, instead do 8x160 6x175 4x 185 or something like that. Try and increase your max just before you get comfortable.
You look physically fit, but not strong. Decrease your reps and do more weight. For example, if you are doing 3x10 bench presses at 150/160/175, instead do 8x160 6x175 4x 185 or something like that. Try and increase your max just before you get comfortable.
how much do you weigh? How long have you been lifting to this point?
Basically I don't think there's a point when you say "what next?". Kinda looks like you just focused on your chest and abs to me. Work the shoulders and traps.
Basically I don't think there's a point when you say "what next?". Kinda looks like you just focused on your chest and abs to me. Work the shoulders and traps.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
organizedconfusion
Master Don Juan
either you have a really low rise ceiling or you are 10 ft.tall ,either way..bulk up! and get a hair cut hippie!
Skilla_Staz
Master Don Juan
Looks like he is standing up on something
Thanks for all the input guys!
Ok, so some explanations...
1: I am 16, a skinny bastard, i can't help it, quick metabolism is hard to keep up with.
2: I am 6'2" and the ceiling is really low
3: I'm not getting a haircut
4: I know the picture sucks, but with a ****ty camera and ****tier light that what i had to work with
5: I wiegh 155lbs, so that would be roughly 310 grams of protein a day. Can anyone point me in the right direction to attain that?
6: My lifts that i can do are limited, i have a benchpress and a curl bar at home, that's about it.
7: My long term goal is to weigh 190lbs, that's 35lbs to go
8: I'm really busy every day with school and work so i can't dedicate a ton of time to working out, how can i hit the wieghts hard enough to make it count without a gruesome amount of time?
Thanks for all your input guys, and keep the tough critique up, that's exactly what i feel i need.
Ok, so some explanations...
1: I am 16, a skinny bastard, i can't help it, quick metabolism is hard to keep up with.
2: I am 6'2" and the ceiling is really low
3: I'm not getting a haircut
4: I know the picture sucks, but with a ****ty camera and ****tier light that what i had to work with
5: I wiegh 155lbs, so that would be roughly 310 grams of protein a day. Can anyone point me in the right direction to attain that?
6: My lifts that i can do are limited, i have a benchpress and a curl bar at home, that's about it.
7: My long term goal is to weigh 190lbs, that's 35lbs to go
8: I'm really busy every day with school and work so i can't dedicate a ton of time to working out, how can i hit the wieghts hard enough to make it count without a gruesome amount of time?
Thanks for all your input guys, and keep the tough critique up, that's exactly what i feel i need.
Skilla_Staz
Master Don Juan
To answer #8: You could, but not by doing #6.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
guitarslinger
Don Juan
Get a cool tattoo, and a haircut.
Skilla_Staz
Master Don Juan
If you have a straight bench press bar at home, your lifts are not limited at all.
Bar- deadlifts, squats, bent over rows, bench press, good mornings, Stiff legged deadlifts, power cleans, snatches, overhead squats, front squats
Curl bar- skull crushers, bicep curls
You have no excuses, the only good exercises you cant do are dips and pull ups, but you can do push ups and all ab work without equipment.
The key isnt time, its intensity, you must be FOCUSED for that half hour you work out, I am always in a heavy sweat when I am done.
you also dont need 2 grams of protein per pound, id say just aim for 155 grams a day, dont worry if its lower.
ps get a hair cut.
Bar- deadlifts, squats, bent over rows, bench press, good mornings, Stiff legged deadlifts, power cleans, snatches, overhead squats, front squats
Curl bar- skull crushers, bicep curls
You have no excuses, the only good exercises you cant do are dips and pull ups, but you can do push ups and all ab work without equipment.
The key isnt time, its intensity, you must be FOCUSED for that half hour you work out, I am always in a heavy sweat when I am done.
you also dont need 2 grams of protein per pound, id say just aim for 155 grams a day, dont worry if its lower.
ps get a hair cut.
A. One major muscle group a day with a minor workout for another muscle? I hope you mean a Bench/Squat/Deadlift oriented workout with some assistance exercises for the necessary muscle groups, while focusing mainly on compound lifts.
No I mean when you work out your back,do 3-4 set exercises for your bicep just to give a it a mild workout. It's a recommendation,it's GREAT for me.
B. More than 8 hours of sleep is overkill eh? Says who? I'd recommend getting 9-10 hours of sleep. Yeah. Thats a lot.
Why 9-10 hours???? You have a life to live,that is overkill. Technically your body only needs 4.5 hours of sleep a night to properly work(Navy Seal training) but you need up to 8 to grow. Your body just slips into a nocturnal state after.
C. Why settle at 1.5? Bump it up to two. It's tough. Believe me. You'll pack on some mass though.
Your body can only handle soo much protein,the rest is wasted. I know someone who used to take in 800 a day for a year,yeah so what,I'm right behind him only taking in 200 a day at 150 lbs. You know you have had too much protein when you start protein farting. If you are farting more then 2 protein farts a hour you already have reached your limit.
No I mean when you work out your back,do 3-4 set exercises for your bicep just to give a it a mild workout. It's a recommendation,it's GREAT for me.
B. More than 8 hours of sleep is overkill eh? Says who? I'd recommend getting 9-10 hours of sleep. Yeah. Thats a lot.
Why 9-10 hours???? You have a life to live,that is overkill. Technically your body only needs 4.5 hours of sleep a night to properly work(Navy Seal training) but you need up to 8 to grow. Your body just slips into a nocturnal state after.
C. Why settle at 1.5? Bump it up to two. It's tough. Believe me. You'll pack on some mass though.
Your body can only handle soo much protein,the rest is wasted. I know someone who used to take in 800 a day for a year,yeah so what,I'm right behind him only taking in 200 a day at 150 lbs. You know you have had too much protein when you start protein farting. If you are farting more then 2 protein farts a hour you already have reached your limit.
md3sign
Senior Don Juan
good build, but you need mass man .. and a lot of it.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.