"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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What Not to Write on Your FB Wall After Breakup

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When a girl I once dated started writing to me again I decided to take a look at her boyfriends FB page (he usually had GPS coordinates of their every location).

I could not believe what he had been writing (starting 2 days after I heard from her again - his history didn't go back further):

1) "I never thought I could have my heart broken so badly."
2) "Feeling so lonely right now."
3) "I'm not just heartbroken, I'm ruined."
4) "I just really need someone to cuddle with, that's all."
5) "Found out my ex was loggin in to my FB!"

I would have to think that's the last time she did that! I almost felt bad for him. Needless to say she was no longer in his friend list letalone "In a Relationship With" him. The 1500 friends they have between them must not have been impressed.

The funniest part is, I'm supposed to see her this week. I can't mention that I know any of this but man, what did she do? And how badly did he handle it? No wonder why she came back to me.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I'm glad you posted this. I was feeling a low point today and was tempted to put something a little needy, nothing this extreme but its made me rethink and search for a positive.
 

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Bigneil, I call that Facebook stalking, a bit disturbing in my book and a little too Sherlock Holmes for my liking.

Ever thought that you could be the rebound? She may have been having issues with him before his Omega girlie emotional outpourings and she's running back to you as Plan B security.
 

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Skalioppe said:
Bigneil, I call that Facebook stalking, a bit disturbing in my book and a little too Sherlock Holmes for my liking.

Ever thought that you could be the rebound? She may have been having issues with him before his Omega girlie emotional outpourings and she's running back to you as Plan B security.
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bigneil's known for doing this all the time...unless I'm confusing him some another sosuaver, he prefer's dating taken women


Bigneil it's crazy that guy would write all that. Why did she go for him in the first place? This is just another case of a guy not having enough women in his life.
 

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yeah facebook is mind reader , we put what we think it is good post , but actually it is just reflection to what we are thinking about
I stopped posting any thing to my facebook wall
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Skalioppe said:
Bigneil, I call that Facebook stalking, a bit disturbing in my book and a little too Sherlock Holmes for my liking.
I call it viewing public information. And while you're at it, why not tell the 1000 marketing companies that write computer programs to "stalk" people the same way that you find them "disturbing". She can rebound with me anytime.

There is no such thing as public privacy. (Note that Skalioppe= AlexDP).

If people don't want information known, they shouldn't publish it, they shouldn't expect the world to offer some collective morals as the warm hearted Skalioppe. Note that back in January I showed HER his page and how much information I could see, and I suggested that she tell him to make it private. He never did.

If public information is available to us that is useful, we would be foolish not to use it. Tell me this didn't provide a major strategic advantage on my upcoming date.
 

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Skalioppe said:
Bigneil, I call that Facebook stalking, a bit disturbing in my book and a little too Sherlock Holmes for my liking.
Gimme a break. Checking people out on FB is hardly "stalking." Obsessively checking every post they make and looking at their profiles a dozen times a day... that's stalking.

Never post anything but your best stuff on FB. Your friends ain't your shrink.
 

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What Not to Write on Your FB Wall After Breakup?

Anything at all. Even having a Facebook page marks you as being a mangina. Sure, you can lie to yourself and say you're just pretending to be one of the girls so you can score a fag hag. But to other men, your reputation precedes you. If it quacks like a fvckmyass, it's a fvckmyass.
 

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3) "I'm not just heartbroken, I'm ruined."

Did she give him Herpes?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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So tired of all the Narcissism & endless "look what my child did" photos.

Done with Fakebook.
 

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'you taught me how to love.'

I saw that as a breakup post.
 

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I went permanent No Contact with Flakebook two Friday's ago. This Friday the two week mark is done and Fakebook and I are officially over. (Not that I paid her much attention nor talked to her while our short relationship lasted.)

Complete waste of time IMO. (Whomever I need to contact or contact me is in my phone.)
 

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The constant look at my child or growing bump status's and photos are annoying.
 

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Naughty Ninja said:
I went permanent No Contact with Flakebook two Friday's ago. This Friday the two week mark is done and Fakebook and I are officially over. (Not that I paid her much attention nor talked to her while our short relationship lasted.)

Complete waste of time IMO. (Whomever I need to contact or contact me is in my phone.)
I might join you on this trend. I only use it for political rants, to which 99% of people ignore.

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The constant look at my child or growing bump status's and photos are annoying.
My favorite is "This is my beautiful daughter. She is growing into a beautiful young lady." I wanted to comment: "let other people say she is beautiful (she is a little porker)" but didn't. I hate how they've boiled things down to Like or nothing. They need a dislike button to keep it balanced but people would cry and unfriend you. So many people have unfriended me in a huge public rant because of basic comments disagreeing - but as you know I get a kick out of it.

Note this girl has added 400 friends in the last 6 months.

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I can extrapolate 3 key items: 1) She dumped him this time and 2) Based on her initiating with me 4 times in 9 days she doesn't seem to be enthralled in another romance, so it will be interesting to see her. 3) She only seems to really want one of us at a time.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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