"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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What Not to Write on Your FB Wall After Breakup

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When a girl I once dated started writing to me again I decided to take a look at her boyfriends FB page (he usually had GPS coordinates of their every location).

I could not believe what he had been writing (starting 2 days after I heard from her again - his history didn't go back further):

1) "I never thought I could have my heart broken so badly."
2) "Feeling so lonely right now."
3) "I'm not just heartbroken, I'm ruined."
4) "I just really need someone to cuddle with, that's all."
5) "Found out my ex was loggin in to my FB!"

I would have to think that's the last time she did that! I almost felt bad for him. Needless to say she was no longer in his friend list letalone "In a Relationship With" him. The 1500 friends they have between them must not have been impressed.

The funniest part is, I'm supposed to see her this week. I can't mention that I know any of this but man, what did she do? And how badly did he handle it? No wonder why she came back to me.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I'm glad you posted this. I was feeling a low point today and was tempted to put something a little needy, nothing this extreme but its made me rethink and search for a positive.
 

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Bigneil, I call that Facebook stalking, a bit disturbing in my book and a little too Sherlock Holmes for my liking.

Ever thought that you could be the rebound? She may have been having issues with him before his Omega girlie emotional outpourings and she's running back to you as Plan B security.
 

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Skalioppe said:
Bigneil, I call that Facebook stalking, a bit disturbing in my book and a little too Sherlock Holmes for my liking.

Ever thought that you could be the rebound? She may have been having issues with him before his Omega girlie emotional outpourings and she's running back to you as Plan B security.
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bigneil's known for doing this all the time...unless I'm confusing him some another sosuaver, he prefer's dating taken women


Bigneil it's crazy that guy would write all that. Why did she go for him in the first place? This is just another case of a guy not having enough women in his life.
 

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yeah facebook is mind reader , we put what we think it is good post , but actually it is just reflection to what we are thinking about
I stopped posting any thing to my facebook wall
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Skalioppe said:
Bigneil, I call that Facebook stalking, a bit disturbing in my book and a little too Sherlock Holmes for my liking.
I call it viewing public information. And while you're at it, why not tell the 1000 marketing companies that write computer programs to "stalk" people the same way that you find them "disturbing". She can rebound with me anytime.

There is no such thing as public privacy. (Note that Skalioppe= AlexDP).

If people don't want information known, they shouldn't publish it, they shouldn't expect the world to offer some collective morals as the warm hearted Skalioppe. Note that back in January I showed HER his page and how much information I could see, and I suggested that she tell him to make it private. He never did.

If public information is available to us that is useful, we would be foolish not to use it. Tell me this didn't provide a major strategic advantage on my upcoming date.
 

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Skalioppe said:
Bigneil, I call that Facebook stalking, a bit disturbing in my book and a little too Sherlock Holmes for my liking.
Gimme a break. Checking people out on FB is hardly "stalking." Obsessively checking every post they make and looking at their profiles a dozen times a day... that's stalking.

Never post anything but your best stuff on FB. Your friends ain't your shrink.
 

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What Not to Write on Your FB Wall After Breakup?

Anything at all. Even having a Facebook page marks you as being a mangina. Sure, you can lie to yourself and say you're just pretending to be one of the girls so you can score a fag hag. But to other men, your reputation precedes you. If it quacks like a fvckmyass, it's a fvckmyass.
 

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3) "I'm not just heartbroken, I'm ruined."

Did she give him Herpes?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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So tired of all the Narcissism & endless "look what my child did" photos.

Done with Fakebook.
 

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'you taught me how to love.'

I saw that as a breakup post.
 

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I went permanent No Contact with Flakebook two Friday's ago. This Friday the two week mark is done and Fakebook and I are officially over. (Not that I paid her much attention nor talked to her while our short relationship lasted.)

Complete waste of time IMO. (Whomever I need to contact or contact me is in my phone.)
 

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The constant look at my child or growing bump status's and photos are annoying.
 

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Naughty Ninja said:
I went permanent No Contact with Flakebook two Friday's ago. This Friday the two week mark is done and Fakebook and I are officially over. (Not that I paid her much attention nor talked to her while our short relationship lasted.)

Complete waste of time IMO. (Whomever I need to contact or contact me is in my phone.)
I might join you on this trend. I only use it for political rants, to which 99% of people ignore.

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The constant look at my child or growing bump status's and photos are annoying.
My favorite is "This is my beautiful daughter. She is growing into a beautiful young lady." I wanted to comment: "let other people say she is beautiful (she is a little porker)" but didn't. I hate how they've boiled things down to Like or nothing. They need a dislike button to keep it balanced but people would cry and unfriend you. So many people have unfriended me in a huge public rant because of basic comments disagreeing - but as you know I get a kick out of it.

Note this girl has added 400 friends in the last 6 months.

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I can extrapolate 3 key items: 1) She dumped him this time and 2) Based on her initiating with me 4 times in 9 days she doesn't seem to be enthralled in another romance, so it will be interesting to see her. 3) She only seems to really want one of us at a time.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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