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lolDhoulmagus said:Black guy at an old southern traditional university. Lets just say sometimes I wish I was born gay because this shvt is terrible
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
lolDhoulmagus said:Black guy at an old southern traditional university. Lets just say sometimes I wish I was born gay because this shvt is terrible
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
CaptainSaveAh0 said:I'm Eastern European can't complain about it... most girls from all races will go for white guys.
lol stop being so negative man. Your a black guy... Most girls I know would date a black guy ( and I don't know very many black girls) and would for sure fantasize about fvcking a black guy.Dhoulmagus said:
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Where I live at, being with a black guy lowers your status amongst your peers and gets you disowned by your parents.CaptainSaveAh0 said:lol stop being so negative man. Your a black guy... Most girls I know would date a black guy ( and I don't know very many black girls) and would for sure fantasize about fvcking a black guy.
Become that fantasy and embrace who you are.
yea, many asian guys are afc,RagingBalls said:Well...besides you ;-) LOL
But in fairness to some asian guys i knew, wow. they got game and also has the same mindset of a DJ. hahaha. Cheers![]()
Yes, I have never really gamed a girl. They just go after me, but it's like fishing in an empty pond sometimes.Ambitious Player said:American male of Indian heritage here and just had to comment on this thread. To me it seems like this whole race thing with Asian and Indian guys is a contagious virus. One Asian guy goes on and talks about how bad being Asian is and how women won't date Asians and other Asians who weren't even aware of their race being a disadvantage now think it is a disadvantage, in the long run you get insecure Asian AFCs that flood up PUA Forums. Similar thing has been happening with Indian guys. This **** has done damage to men from the two races that have potential, insecurity can be a nasty thing to deal with, it slowly chews up your confidence and other traits needed to attract women. All this talk of "women hate my race" and sounding hopeless is just alienating young males from those races and giving rise to more AFCs.
I am over 6 ft tall and have managed to do well with almost all races of women. Not shy, not scared to approach a girl, and I can talk to them without any issues. The PUA material has never worked for me, don't use the pickup lines or any of that gimmick, I just let it happen I guess.
For some reason I have found that Black women and darker Indian women are the most attracted to me and give me all sorts of IOIs but I am not interested in them as much. Darker Asian girls (Southeast Asian) are almost the same way but not that interested in them either.
Latin girls and mixed looking girls have hit it off well with me and I have had some enjoyable relationships with them. Persian girls seem to dig me too and have had some fun times with them. These are the groups of girls I like and are usually receptive to me. I think that Indian men and Middle Eastern men who look good and have game can do well with these kinds of girls. Just a few weeks ago I saw a couple where the guy looked like Jay Sean and the girl looked like Chloe Bennet (Agents of Shield). The two were holding hands and clearly into each other. Even Arianny Celeste was dating an Indian dude from what I hear.
My struggles have come from White girls but not all White girls (or even most).
I have found European girls (do better with eastern european than western european) to be fairly receptive to me which kind of surprises me given that I do have somewhat of a Middle Eastern appearance, have had a lot of fun with them. With American girls I have usually done well with those from more diverse or working class type areas.
The typical suburban girls who have well off parents are not that interested in me and a lot of my friends have found them tough to crack (maybe you guys can share your experiences with them). I found that these girls are often going after the guy with the All American looks they can show off to their friends, have hardly seen these girls go interracial. Starting to think maybe game doesn't work that well on them and it is more about status and looks with only a small number being about game. These girls might be the toughest ones to crack, it is as if they don't even care about money because the guys they grew up around had lots of it. In the past I have seen glimpses of success with these girls but nothing much outside of that.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
CaptainSaveAh0 said:lol stop being so negative man. Your a black guy... Most girls I know would date a black guy ( and I don't know very many black girls) and would for sure fantasize about fvcking a black guy.
Become that fantasy and embrace who you are.
First, it's a grass is greener sort of thing. It's easy to think that another group has it easier.backbreaker said:I really do not fathom how white guys out here en masse can't get laid. I really can't. If you're white, not a druggie.. **** that's not even mandatory lol, not a felon,someone out there wants you.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Plus they eat curry all day every day...which gives their body odours a distinct scent (a fact they often don't realize).SgtSplacker said:Cuban... I'd say it's a plus.
I dunno what this Asian crap is all about, I've never heard any female speak negatively about Asians.
Some Indian dudes just need to clean up a bit, you're not exempt from the hygiene/grooming rules Indian guys. Kind of a culture thing too, I see lots of Indian guys like to grow their hair and nails, light on the deodorant. Those things by themselves are not deal breakers, you just need to know how to apply those things without looking gross...
Yup.Ambitious Player said:I think being White has a higher ceiling in the US than any other race. When girls think of hot guys they are going to typically think of White men. From my own experience, I have managed to do just as well as my friends from other minority groups but when it has come to me being next to my friend that happens to be White along with tall or good looking, the game is over before it has even started. White American girls (especially if rich and upper middle class) are the most loyal to men of their own race without question. The whole open minded thing is an act and nothing else, these girls definitely hold it against you for being a minority. Once you are in situations where there are plenty of these girls (private universities, nice neighborhoods) you start to see how much easier your White friends have it than you do. Sure these girls will talk to you and pretend to be your friend but they will make it clear to their circle that you are not their lover and will do their best to keep the distance.
It is a status thing to them. Some days I still feel that if I was to max out looks, money, and status along with having game, I would not be able to do consistently well with women of that particular niche. It is a tough pill to swallow for me but sometimes you just have to swallow it.
Sometimes I feel like the ceiling is there for a man who happens to be of a minority ground while for a White guy the sky is the limit. Maybe this changes in the future, one can hope, but right now this is the way things seem to be.
skinnyguy said:Yup.
My cousin married a white guy who is a compete deadbeat... Been unemployed and living with her for 15 years, sits at home and drinks beer while she works.
White guys really have no excuse for not getting laid. All they need is a pulse. On the other hand I have to constantly work on myself, exercise, have a high paying job, and have tons of friends just to get a number from an HB 6
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.