"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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What motivates you?

MM92

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Who on here finds it hard to motivate themselves to workout and gain muscle and/or lose weight? What keeps you motivated to improve?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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i'm a pretty active person so i just motivate myself by seeing how i improved. If you're looking for motivation, you really need to find out why you want to workout. you want to look good at the beach? get better at sports? just be fit enough to handle any physical situation? Its not that hard to motivate yourself once you get into a groove. peoplse used to tell me this all the time, but i had a hard time believing it. Now that it's happened to me i can say its the truth.
 

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I just love to train in moderation (3x a week) and I've seen the benefits. I'm now 40 years old and I feel great. Sometimes I'll spend a few weeks getting extra intense and work on a specific goal (fat loss, etc). Other times I'll just stay in "maintenance mode" and train with less intensity.
 

AlexLefty

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That I don't want to be a fat fvck.
It's 2nd nature to be fit now.
If I have spare time, might as well be doing something productive.
 

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I hate feeling and looking gross, so that motivates me to maintain reasonable level of bodyfat and musculature. Beyond that, the week to week grinde of improving my numbers on the big 4 lifts, is what keeps me in there erryday.

I've also adapted my cardio sessions to be useful for other kinds of learning, primarily through audiobooks.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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JCRoberts

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MM92 said:
Who on here finds it hard to motivate themselves to workout and gain muscle and/or lose weight? What keeps you motivated to improve?
I suppose it's just the feeling that working out gives me. After a workout, I feel energized. I feel healthier. If I don't work out for a long time, I feel fatigued. Working out is a must, for many reasons, and not only to look good. But it's also for health, confidence, energy, etc.

JC
 

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What keeps me motivated to lose weight? Every time I wake up with my arms asleep, followed by a couple days of weakness and joint pain. Type 2 diabetes is creeping up on me. The only way to avoid taking metformin every day is to keep losing the fat.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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girl making out with boyfriend .....is checking me out at the same time..lolz
but seriously i'm gaining more respect from other people...also gaining more confidence especially when i look at the guy in the mirror
 

Who Dares Win

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To be better than those around me, it doesnt work only for the gym but for everything I do.

I dont believe in equality in any form, there are those who are above and those who are beneath and I simply dont accept to be beneath.

I would rather feel pain and work my ass off and get the lion share, than have a easy unchallenged life and settle for a mediocre position and an average quality life.
 

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I motivate myself looking like videogame characters
 

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i have no social life or anything else going for myself, i just train hard out of desperation to better myself, its the only way i know how
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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