"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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What more can I do? Help me improve...

Dan08

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Thought I'd post this in Anything Else just as it isn't DJ related really.

Let me give you a brief background about me.

I'm a 19 y/o university student studying a music/film degree and I'm 2 years in.

Last year I almost died after getting drunk, passing out in the cold and almost dying from hypothermia. It shook myself and my family to the core and whilst it was harrowing at how close I came to death (20 minutes) it has perhaps spurned me onto doing more with my life in the past year than I would have done had it not happened and I am thankful for that.

So, I am always wanting to improve now physically and mentally. I don't like to stagnate and get bored very easily sitting around.

Currently I do the following:

-Work my balls of at university
-Gym 5x a week
-Squash at least once a week
-Read biographies & self-help books/watch motivational videos. I particularly like Les Brown/Eric Thomas as motivational speakers
-Invest into stocks and shares
-Run an online business (work in progress)
-Socialise occasionally with close friends, we grab a film, hit the pub etc
-Produce a local radio show

Outside of hobbies and interests etc I try and live my life to the full

-Continuously try and improve my physical appearance i.e. research removing spots
-Have a FWB setup so get regular sex 1-2 times a week.
-Physical excersize 5 times a week
-Get up earlier in the day to make my day longer
-Rarely have free time, I'm always looking to fill it with something that may improve my lifestyle. i.e. Read a book instead of playing a video game etc

And yet I find myself wanting more from my life, I look around at my peers and can't figure out they can accept their current situations.

So SS, where do I go from here?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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FairShake

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You literally sound more accomplished than most dudes I know and they're all over 30 while you're only 19.

I'd say worry less about other people. What they're doing or what they think of your accomplishments.

You're doing great, unbelievably so.
 

Dan08

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FairShake said:
You literally sound more accomplished than most dudes I know and they're all over 30 while you're only 19.

I'd say worry less about other people. What they're doing or what they think of your accomplishments.

You're doing great, unbelievably so.
Well thank you FairShake those are kind words indeed!

Ok, I find it's not actively an issue with me. I mean I don't do all it for them right? :D
 
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