"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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someperson1987

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Hi,
I'm just curious on what this could mean. The girl really isn't THAT pretty (7 at best and maybe even then im being generous....) so its not a huge deal to me whether she may like me or not.

Well i met this girl in class a couple months ago and we got along pretty well. She's a nice funny and let me get away with alot thing (ie didn't really mind me putting my around her etc).
But for some reason, second semester comes and shes ice cold. Now our conversation least not more than a few sentences and even saying "hi"....its seems more out of politeness than out of joy. It's like we hardly know each other.
Not that i wanna go after her (i'm too busy: I have a non profit organization i run and plus the semester is a killer). But im curious could she like me or what. (again, I'm just curious cause shes hardly a 7). She just shy all of a sudden or what could happen?
She also has other guy friends tho..............and she's still the sagm way all along. Don't really know why.
 
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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someperson1987

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Thx but nah i dont think its me (of course i could be wrong). I didnt really do anything different.......she just wont talk to me now. Who knows why frankly
 

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Maybe you missed your opportunity. maybe now she has a boyfriend. Maybe she got tired of flirting and waiting for you to make the move. Whatever the reason, if it's closure you need, simply ask for the number or a date. That'll give you the definite answer as to whether she's interested or not.
 

Dukester

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just forget about it dude. dont let it get to you.
you got that organization to worry about, and school is 100 times more important than any girl (esp one that is hardly a 7).

girls will come and go dude, but your education lasts forever.

nail 'em while u can, and 4get about the ones that give u trouble that isnt worth it
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Wyldfire

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Sounds like she got disgusted waiting for you to make a move.
 

someperson1987

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yah maybe she got tired of waiting im not sure. I know she's still single tho.............Its not really a big deal to me I just wanna know why that happens.
 

Donald Kaufman

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The window only stays open for so long. Probably mean she had some IL but you waited which she takes as an insult.
 

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pretty much everyone here is right. she was interested, and you didn't make a move. been there, done that...i know exactly what you mean...there was this chick i wasn't very interested in, but we flirted for a bit...and i didn't make moves...she's probably given you some hints, and you've missed them.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Fatality

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I've been in this situation, only with girls that i was interested in:( :( :( :(
 

someperson1987

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hey thx for the advice.

Well me and her haven't really spoken at all actually (she'll wave in the hallway but thats about it. Its like she doesn't wanna talk to me even when the opportunity arises. I have no clue why but hey she's not that pretty anywas.

Again a little update for curious souls.
 

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not that pretty? you shallow waste of f-ucking space!! what makes U think your so damn special?? if you don't 'feel' anything for this girl then back off and let someone who does want her, don't play with peoples emotions, that really pisses me off!!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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someperson12

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Originally posted by ShockDoctor
not that pretty? you shallow waste of f-ucking space!! what makes U think your so damn special?? if you don't 'feel' anything for this girl then back off and let someone who does want her, don't play with peoples emotions, that really pisses me off!!
Hehe, that's a cute response. I never meant any harm. I only wanted to satisfy curiosity thats all..... you know i cant really ask these questions else where. Didn't mean to angry you. (this is my other account.....lost the password to the other)
 
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