"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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What Men and Women Look For, according to my biology professor.

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Yo I am studying for a test on evolution and genetics, and I am watching a seminar where the professor explains what women want and what men want according to scholars. I will give you guys a copy of my notes.

What Women Want in a Man

#1: Socual status
#2: Intelligence (Social intelligence)
#3: Humor (Interpreted as less intelligent and trustworthy but more socially savvy and empathic)
#4: Trustworthy emotional stability (sense of rhythm, use of voice(according to the professor you can tell a lot about a person's emotional stability just from their tone of voice))
#5: Athletically Built. Length correlates with firtility. Men with girlfriends are an inch taller than single men on average.
#6: Love, affection, willingness to invest
#7: Good Health (Symmetry face and body).

Sexual Selection = advertising good genes.

What Men Look For in Women

#1: Youth. Fertility, health, energy for care of elders
#2: Beauty, advertisement of good genes.(Babies of 3 months already react to facial symmetry)


So to summarize:

Men: Beauty is quick indicator for good genes.
Women: 'Combination-strategy': monogamous, but when in doubt about their partner's genes, they will get inseminated by another man (spreading risks).

According to the Liverpool-flat study, the chance that a man's "child" is not genetically his, is higher when the man is in doubt whether the child is theirs, and 5-15% of the children in the liverpool-flats were not genetic offspring of their "fathers".
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I love how "ability to stir emotions" is missing from the list of What Women want...

I do agree with the prof's assessment about what men want in a woman but do you ever notice how our society wants to make men feel ashamed for having just a short list of prerequisites in women which includes beauty, youth, fertility, and compassion for elderly/children? You ever notice how society wants you to drink from the kool aid of "a smart, educated, career-oriented women is more desirable because she is more stable and progressive bla bla bla"?

That's why I always laugh when I hear a guy brag about his girlfriend's education level but all those masters degree, job titles won't get your **** hard if her weight and SAT are identical...
 

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Ability to stir emotions?

Why should that be on the list? Is that a desire ?

Your professors list is a summary of all of our knowledge here.

Now, we (the community) should be lauded for coming up with all that stuff

by ourselves

without studying biology.

That's what's impressive.
 

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bump
 

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It sounds a lot nicer to say "social status" than it does 'money,' doesn't it? I notice that neither list has the dreaded M word.

The economy is going to have an influence as well. As the men of the world get poorer, especially in relation to women, they are going to start valuing having a woman with a job.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Bible_Belt said:
It sounds a lot nicer to say "social status" than it does 'money,' doesn't it? I notice that neither list has the dreaded M word.

The economy is going to have an influence as well. As the men of the world get poorer, especially in relation to women, they are going to start valuing having a woman with a job.
You mean a sugar mama?

That's not a bad idea besides the fact most of them resemble toads...

I wonder where I will find a young sugar mama
 

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Men value love, women love value. Simple.

Case closed. Should I lock this now?
 

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nismo-4 said:
Men value love, women love value. Simple.

Case closed. Should I lock this now?
If you insist. Excuse me for bringing it up again, good sir.
 

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Chamber36 said:
I wonder where I will find a young sugar mama
Mine was 23 when I married her; I was 21. Her rich parents paid our bills. She was an international student at my college, which was expensive and private. All of the international students I met had rich parents. The school charged them a higher tuition rate, they couldn't have a job, and it was expensive to fly back home. That was the college's idea of diversity - rich kids from all over the world.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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:rock: women like 2 bone str8 2 bone zone not all belive me on this but if u keep the ALPHA goin shell be a dawg in the sack if u no what i meen :box:
 

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Ability to stir emotions?

Why should that be on the list? Is that a desire?
All of the stuff on the list stirs a woman's emotions. The man who can do that with just words however is in a completely different class.
 

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When it comes to DATING, you only need one thing: good looks. You don't need to be intelligent, have a good personality, have a good job, money, car or anything else. Women will date you based on looks alone.

As for relationships, that's a different animal.
 

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skinnyguy you are pissing me off with your blabbering because I'm prety damn goodlooking but I don't have a harem of sexy women.

Women love status my man. I'm not one to status ***** as I base my value off of my own accomplishments and not my popularity.

A lot of women will link status to popularity. There's plenty of ugly popular dudes that know how to keep a woman interested.

So stop the self-hate and the resentment and jealousy towards the betterlooking. It's about confidence as well fvckface.

Looks are just the package, but if you are a goodlooking retard no women will want you.

A man however wouldn't mind fvcking a HB9 even if she's semi-retarded.

Women have a bigger checklist.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Status matters, but only if you are a celebrity. Maybe if you have status within a social circle. But if they don't know you, status doesn't matter as much as looks.

Maybe you aren't as good looking as you think?
 

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Boilermaker said:
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Ability to stir emotions?

Why should that be on the list? Is that a desire ?

Your professors list is a summary of all of our knowledge here.

Now, we (the community) should be lauded for coming up with all that stuff

by ourselves

without studying biology.

That's what's impressive.

Hahahah, this right here! ↑↑↑↑↑↑ Goddamn that's funny.....and true.
 

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skinnyguy said:
When it comes to DATING, you only need one thing: good looks. You don't need to be intelligent, have a good personality, have a good job, money, car or anything else. Women will date you based on looks alone.

As for relationships, that's a different animal.
This guy needs to have his Sosuave privileges revoked. Apparently he's not learning anything. How did you just come up with what you wrote with all the wealth of knowledge on this site? Do you really think women just jump straight into a relationship without some dating and pre-qualifying the guy? You must really be the sexiest man out there. If you've been dating women just by your looks. Mr. Model Sir, lol.
 

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The thing is that people can be very biased. Some less attractive men will believe that looks hardly matter and some attractive men will believe that looks matter a lot.

So where does this leave us. Well believing that all attractive women want the same thing is stupid. We have personalities and different ideals. To what degree we value looks and personality is highly individual.

In my experience the best gamers tend to be socially intelligent. And you are socially unintelligent if believe Chamber36 primitive model of men and women.
 

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skysliced said:
The thing is that people can be very biased. Some less attractive men will believe that looks hardly matter and some attractive men will believe that looks matter a lot.

So where does this leave us. Well believing that all attractive women want the same thing is stupid. We have personalities and different ideals. To what degree we value looks and personality is highly individual.

In my experience the best gamers tend to be socially intelligent. And you are socially unintelligent if believe Chamber36 primitive model of men and women.
Well social status is at the top of the list man. I don't see how my model really is in conflict with your claims?

Of course it makes sense that individual women look for different traits in partners. But consider that in general they would rather share a high-status male than find some guy that's clear-cut for them.

Think how Hugh Hefner has thousands of women, and Oprah has 0 men.

Women dig higher status males.

Be specific please when you want to refute any claims I've made. It's not hard, you can just copy and paste.

By the way I also know of people with no money but tremendous social savviness and especially frame control that could seduce women at the drop of a hat. I am not going to say they have high standards, but they sure knew how to seduce.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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