What makes this girl tick?

[Harold]

Ok, so there is this girl I'm trying to figure out. Here is some info:

On the physical side, she has (in my subjective opinion) medium looks. No makeup. A bit asymmetrical face. Smart, VERY fit, takes care of herself.

Personality wise:
She has sort of a natural, cheerful, down to earth personality.
Open and talkative (at least with me) and we have sort of a rapport.
She will always engage me back if I make contact and she tends to make eye contact with me.
Her talk and jokes will always be sort of "safe" i.e. never any kind of sexual reference. Instead, she almost seems to defuse such things (or ignore) if it comes from someone (anyone) else. Same with the way she dress and move - completely neutral, non-flashy.

So, anything tips on understanding this girl? What will make her open up?

 

[Webb91]

Either just shy or not attracted. But even shy interested girls will get filthy when speaking occasionally if you lead it out of her by being a good talker IME.

 

[Medina]

She will always engage me back if I make contact

So she doesn't engage you?

Open and talkative (at least with me) and we have sort of a rapport.

Building rapport over time tends to be a bad way to go

Her talk and jokes will always be sort of "safe" i.e. never any kind of sexual reference.

You may have blown it by not establishing sexual tension early enough

So, anything tips on understanding this girl? What will make her open up?

From what I've read this girl views you as a friend but it can be overturned

If she's Miss Goody Goody you should tell her, call her a nerd jokingly and then start backing off

This will build sexual tension. Then (if) she starts engaging YOU - arrange a date

 

[Harold]

Hmm, interesting, thanks for the tips

 

[Webb91]

So she doesn't engage you?



Building rapport over time tends to be a bad way to go



You may have blown it by not establishing sexual tension early enough



From what I've read this girl views you as a friend but it can be overturned

If she's Miss Goody Goody you should tell her, call her a nerd jokingly and then start backing off

This will build sexual tension. Then (if) she starts engaging YOU - arrange a date

I agree iv spoke to girls like this before and it turns out they was actually attracted. What I done is continue chatting normally calling her a shy girl or keep giving the impression your above her with your confidence and make her think you think she’s shy in her mind and eventually she will want to prove you wrong if she is actually interested. Sounds like friend zone mind.

 

[Harold]

Hope it is ok to revive this fading thread. Thought maybe some of you would find the story interesting, and perhaps someone has more good advise.

First of all, there is some context here that I have failed to mention: due to our different social status and the conventions here in the backwards place of the world I live, me and her are not "supposed" to be anything other than friends. I'm not going to bore you with the details, but me and her going on a date would be frowned upon, and thus we necessarily have to be subtle (personally I dont really care, but I'm sure she does).

So, anyway, I told her, (subtly but clearly) that I find her attractive. That is about one week ago. Afterwards we chat and laugh like normal, and I'm not sure where things go at that point.

But earlier today she contacted me and wants us to go training together (just the two of us). This is a bit unusual, all though we have done stuff together before it was always with other people.

So, naturally, I'm looking to raise the temperature, she must be keen if she arranges for us to be together right? Any ideas of what to say, what to suggest etc? I welcome any input

 

[Webb91]

She wants an excuse to use to tell whoever she tells to make it a legit excuse to see you. As you mentioned it would be frowned upon. So she’s using the gym excuse (oh me and so and so are going to the gym) etc. Think as the gym as a date even though it’s not. You still talk. It’s just different settings but building attraction is still the same wherever you go to hang out.

 

[Kotaix]

You didn't specify, is she higher status than you or lower? Your final statement suggests to me you are lower.

If that's the case and she's actually into you then you might have struck gold.

You need to kiss her in a private location and see how she reacts, and do it right. You cannot progress to a relationship or sex without doing so. If she doesn;t like it, move on.

 

[cola]

I don’t think she is into you, she is just too nice to tell you in plain terms. One way to find out bro, make a bold move.
Isolate and attempt sex.

Edit: Reread your post, text her and ask to go to dinner after gym and go for kiss. That will tell you all you need to know/

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I don’t think she is into you, she is just too nice to tell you in plain terms. One way to find out bro, make a bold move.
Isolate and attempt sex.

Edit: Reread your post, text her and ask to go to dinner after gym and go for kiss. That will tell you all you need to know/

Out of 30 babes how many is going to be into him? Should he try to get uninterested babes to Like him?

 

[cola]

Out of 30 babes how many is going to be into him? Should he try to get uninterested babes to Like him?

I guess that depends on his social status. As far as your second question, some guys like the chase I do not. So for me that’s a no. I’ll gladly take the 10-15% of girls who are into me.

 

[touma.akagi]

Sounds like it's time to take this girl out on a date if you haven't already. Beat around the bush for too long and you won't get anywhere, God knows I learned that the hard way.

Worst she can do is say no or give LMR.