"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

What kind of a weenie would want to marry a pregnant woman?

MatureDJ

MatureDJ

Master Don Juan
Joined
Apr 30, 2006
Messages
12,740
Reaction score
5,158
:eek:

http://www.slate.com/id/2172980/

Dear Prudie,

I met this great guy and have fallen head over heels for him. He says he loves me and has even proposed, and I said yes. I know we are meant to be together, even though we just met four months ago. There's one big snag. I am eight months pregnant with my first child. I met him when I was four months pregnant, and was up front about that from the start. He said he was OK with it and wants to be there for me and the baby, even though it isn't his baby. (The father left when I first found out I was pregnant and doesn't want anything to do with me or the baby. He has disappeared from my life for good.) I have moved in with him, and he has baby-proofed the house already. He even set up a nursery while I was at work one day. He wants to be part of this baby's life, and even if we break up, he wants to be there for the baby. I feel guilty for sticking him with a baby that isn't his. Should I feel bad about letting this man raise a baby that isn't his, even if he wants to?
Click to expand...
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

Read more...

N

Night Owl

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jul 22, 2007
Messages
207
Reaction score
5
Location
UK
Doh !! What a sucker. Seen it happen, woman got pregnant, trapped different man, got married and a few years later it all goes wrong as really father re-appears on the scene and wants back....
 
L

Last Man Standing

Banned
Joined
Mar 18, 2006
Messages
3,956
Reaction score
37
A "DJ" would marry such!!!! Haven't you been reading the boards????
 
S

speakeasy

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jun 4, 2006
Messages
2,776
Reaction score
77
I can't really stand in judgement. Doesn't seem like my cup of tea, but without talking to the guy, I have no idea what's right for him. Maybe this chic is everything he's looking for in a woman and it'll all work out. Stranger things have happened.
 
MatureDJ

MatureDJ

Master Don Juan
Joined
Apr 30, 2006
Messages
12,740
Reaction score
5,158
Night Owl said:
Doh !! What a sucker. Seen it happen, woman got pregnant, trapped different man, got married and a few years later it all goes wrong as really father re-appears on the scene and wants back....
Click to expand...
How is this a trap? She was up front with him about being pregnant, and not trying to cuckold him.

Besides, even if she were trying to pawn the pregnancy on him, he should be able to do the math. :woo:
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

K

KontrollerX

Master Don Juan
Joined
Oct 11, 2005
Messages
4,476
Reaction score
182
speakeasy said:
I can't really stand in judgement. Doesn't seem like my cup of tea, but without talking to the guy, I have no idea what's right for him. Maybe this chic is everything he's looking for in a woman and it'll all work out. Stranger things have happened.
Click to expand...
Doubtful.

He's probably a huge AFC who couldn't get anything else and decided to become a knight to this woman in hopes that his valor will keep them together forever.

There is no mountain too high, no obstacle too daunting and no difficulty too great to deter the truly desperate AFC.
 
O

OldDog67

New Member
Joined
Sep 3, 2007
Messages
3
Reaction score
0
Location
Brooklyn,NY
I've seen girls get pregnant, the guy disappears and they start dating a guy they wouldn't have given the time of day to before they were pregnant. Some guys just don't have it as easy as others when it comes to women, that's life. It doesn't always turn out badly.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
22 Rules for Massive Success With Women
Top