"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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What I've Learned While SS was Down

Bible_Belt

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#1 - It's not easy to find another DJ discussion. Women would agree that most guys don't "get it." But for the DJs who do, they are a minority among men. So discussing women with most men is a waste of time. You get afc feedback.

#2 - "Next" is the right way even if it does not seem so at the time, or even if you never see the girl again. You will be surprised at who calls you back with renewed interest after you next them.

#3 - Much like in trading stocks, techniques work the same way even if you apply them to different timeframes. A pickup method that is condensed into a plan for one evening can work just as well if you spread the same techniques over days or even weeks. For example, Mystery's freeze-out when a girl behaves poorly, which punishes her by withdrawing your attention, will work equally well when the freeze-out is a few days instead of a few minutes.

#4 - You know a technique works when you use it successfully without even thinking about it at the time, maybe even by accident. With no intention of flirting, I was harassing a HB waitress in good fun about the restaurant changing its menu, and she was loving it. In retrospect, that is a David D C&F technique.

#5 - Be the man, lead the way. Either you are the DJ she lays or the suckup AFC to whom she complains about the DJ she lays. Even if you lead the way to a firm "no," then next and move on right away. There is a decent chance that she will come back, but even if not, she will still respect you more for being a man than for being a wuss afc tolerating her sh!t.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Good points all, especially 1, 2 & 5.

I learnt that HB10s with a heart of gold are rare, but they're there. Consequently I am now out of the game and very happy about it.
 
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