"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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What I've Learned While SS was Down

Bible_Belt

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#1 - It's not easy to find another DJ discussion. Women would agree that most guys don't "get it." But for the DJs who do, they are a minority among men. So discussing women with most men is a waste of time. You get afc feedback.

#2 - "Next" is the right way even if it does not seem so at the time, or even if you never see the girl again. You will be surprised at who calls you back with renewed interest after you next them.

#3 - Much like in trading stocks, techniques work the same way even if you apply them to different timeframes. A pickup method that is condensed into a plan for one evening can work just as well if you spread the same techniques over days or even weeks. For example, Mystery's freeze-out when a girl behaves poorly, which punishes her by withdrawing your attention, will work equally well when the freeze-out is a few days instead of a few minutes.

#4 - You know a technique works when you use it successfully without even thinking about it at the time, maybe even by accident. With no intention of flirting, I was harassing a HB waitress in good fun about the restaurant changing its menu, and she was loving it. In retrospect, that is a David D C&F technique.

#5 - Be the man, lead the way. Either you are the DJ she lays or the suckup AFC to whom she complains about the DJ she lays. Even if you lead the way to a firm "no," then next and move on right away. There is a decent chance that she will come back, but even if not, she will still respect you more for being a man than for being a wuss afc tolerating her sh!t.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Nighthawk

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Good points all, especially 1, 2 & 5.

I learnt that HB10s with a heart of gold are rare, but they're there. Consequently I am now out of the game and very happy about it.
 
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