She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
That is a keeper right ther man lol. Awesomesca_p said:I don't hit on other girls anymore because I have a girlfriend, but a lot of guys hit on her and she has some good stories. Once she was at IHOP or something and the waiter kept flirting with her. When he asked her how she wanted her eggs, she said "unfertilized", and when she left the tip she also left a condom on the table with a note "so, in the event that you get to talk to a real, live woman, you don't jizz on her pancakes."
Another time we were taking a walk through town and this guy starts hitting on her right in front of me (wtf), trying to be all suave, and she turned to him and said, "The only reason you approached me at all is because you think I'm hot. If I was ugly you wouldn't even look at me. You have no interest whatsoever in my personality and worth as a human being. And you have the nerve to think I'd leave my boyfriend of three years for you...so that makes you both shallow and arrogant. NO, I will not go out with you, NO, I will not sleep with you, YES, you can go away now." :crackup:
God, I love her.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
:crackup: :crackup: :crackup:evasive said:some b.itch told me her number was 3
after a short conversation i asked her her phone number and the trick said 3
Awww, did the poor girl hurt your feelings? Do you need a hug??eko said:i said something like flirtacious to a girl (who always flirts with me like real hard) and she goes
"wow a little escandaloso? dont abuse our mutual flirting-ness. i don't like you that much"
then i just told her to go do it with some other tool. she never gets any guys. no wonder. i always knew she was really immature but i never knew how to like fix it.
All women are attention "vampires". It's your own damn fault for not escalating to see where you stand. It's like playing poker...if you just sit there scared and don't raise, you have no idea of how strong your hand is, so you just get suckered along in the pot until you either cave and fold or lose all your money and get beat.Heman6 said:hmm...don't have any bad flat out rejection stories. But I have dealt with a couple of attention craving *****es who just string you along and are vague in telling you were you stand. It's a complete waste of time, though not for them as their getting their fix; attention vampires.
Whatever. You can't get a disease by talking to them. Running game on strippers, for example, is a good exercise. 1) they're usually very attractive women so you get to deal with your sexual nervousness and 2) they're NOT going to hook up with you, they expect you to know that, so there's no "threat of rejection".MarkR said:This was not exactly a rejection - I was having a good time with a couple of girls only to find out that they were prosti$tues. I mean for real. It is actually my worst nightmare to hit on a prosti$tue, this is what makes me hesistant to approach.
Oh well, it was elementary school. Get over it. If I had a dollar for every time I was rejected at elementary school age, I could've retired by 6th grade. I can see where it'd hurt. Get over it.Crank_It_Up said:it was either first or second grade, I told this hottie I liked her and she said "just because you like me doesn't mean I have to like you". Reality struck hard... I felt bad for a day or two, after that, it wasn't so bad.
The more you approach, the better you can read these girls. I bet you'd be able to tell the next one you run into. I cold approached some girl at school. It was cool cause I got to work on my game, but then I went to a bar and saw her on the corner. ROFL. she told me not to tell anyone at school.MarkR said:This was not exactly a rejection - I was having a good time with a couple of girls only to find out that they were prosti$tues. I mean for real. It is actually my worst nightmare to hit on a prosti$tue, this is what makes me hesistant to approach.
LMAO!! :crackup: Sounds like you got a keeper theresca_p said:I don't hit on other girls anymore because I have a girlfriend, but a lot of guys hit on her and she has some good stories. Once she was at IHOP or something and the waiter kept flirting with her. When he asked her how she wanted her eggs, she said "unfertilized", and when she left the tip she also left a condom on the table with a note "so, in the event that you get to talk to a real, live woman, you don't jizz on her pancakes."