"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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What is your success rate with women?

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Jeffst1980

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If your success rate is high, you aren't approaching enough. You should be aiming "out of your league" if you want to gain skills, too.

It doesn't matter if your rate is 1 out of 100 or worse, because rejection does not matter. A single act of getting rejected has no impact on future encounters.

It helps to get the idea of being a "pimp" or "ladies man" out of your head, too. Trying to live up to some bogus "reputation" will force you to play it safe to avoid disproving this reality. You should have the mindset of someone that truly doesn't care what other people think of him, and especially what random girls think of him.
 

Jeffst1980

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Lucifero said:
Nah, I'm pretty Awesome.

Nice looking, muscular, confident, funny, intelligent, invincible, flexable, dont give a **** about rejection-flakes-rudeness, etc.

Even with all of that, my record is terrible. I dont give a ****, but I'm just telling the truth...I also approach a lot of women and I have more numbers than I can call (My avalible free-time is limited)...:woo:

Just saw this....don't worry, you're doing fine. The goal is to create options, not necessarily to improve your hit rate. The fact that you are getting lots of numbers is a good thing; now, you just have to push the interaction as far as it will go EVERY TIME. Start going out near your house and you'll have an easier time bringing girls back.
 

bigneil

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100% so far, never had a girl reject me
Well then you should have worked your way up to a supermodel by now.

Is your 100% success rate implying 1/1 or 1000/1000?
 

Alex DeLarge

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In my past 10 approaches I have gotten 10 phone numbers, hangouts/dates with 5, sex with 2 of them.

The dates part is sort of my fault though. I tend to lose interest pretty quickly and do not have a lot of time between work and summer courses. I am not one of those people that sits right by my phone all day either so I tend to miss a lot of texts or just forget to reply.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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For getting dates or lunches I'm at about 25% maybe a bit higher. Granted I don't ask out that many girls.

For getting a kiss or more I'm at 0%.
 

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I've only asked one girl for number and on date and she said yes, but canceled it like 4 days before it. Where does that put me than?
 

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Zarky said:
The #1 Trick for men is to determine how "easy" a woman is. Once you get to the point that you can pull chicks more or less reliably, you must hone your skills so you can ask the right questions and make the right observations to tell you whether the girl is going to put out quickly or if she's going to string you along.

This is priority #1 for guys who have relatively tight game. Learn to recognize easy chicks. For me, if they don't put out on the first 'date' (or whatever other get-together you've arranged), then they're done.

BRILLIANT POST

but Zarky if a chick doesn't put out the first night you really don't give her a second date mate?
 
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