"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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What is your mindset?

phoenix_met

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Hi guys
I want your ideas about these things:

1)What do you think before start approaching(I mean your mindset or attitude to destroy the fear)

2)Your mindset during the approaching(from the start of eyecontact to the end)

If you help me I will probably find a good way to destroy the fear
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Raikojo17

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here's what i think about when i approach girls

1) before approaching.
u always feel fear or some sort of pressure before u approach the chick, we all do. so banish those thoughts instantly. think only about the positive outcomes, not the negative. also, remember that she is only a girl, who is likely alot physically weaker than u, and is not a monster. she cannot kill u, the worst she can do is say "no". and if she does reject u, remember there r tons more girls out there to game, so no lose on ur part at all. u actually gain because u had experience and u had the balls to even approach her. for every girl out there that says no, there are some who will say yes. find the yes's, forget the no's.
have sumthin ur proud of or that was really tough but u pulled it off? think of urself in that moment, and how confident u felt. think if u could pull sumthin like that off, then how hard could walking up to a chick be?

2)during approach
same as first, but during the convo, just have a confident and calm mindset. dont put to much pressure on urself or u will be uneasy and nervous, and she will feel that and want to get away from u. jus remember that u r the man, and she is just a girl, who cannot harm u. remember, calm, and confident. bt most of all, just have fun, u are not getting graded on this. so just have fun, think of it as a game, cuz really, that's all it is. if ur having a good time, so will she.

the confidence mindset is always key. u have to know with in urself that u can do this and will succed eventually. and that a girls opinion or rejection doesnt matter, as it is just a minor set back. u cant be scare of them, they are small creatures whos greatest weapon is saying "no". how harmful can that be? go out, game girls, have fun, and be the man.:up:
 

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1)What do you think before start approaching(I mean your mindset or attitude to destroy the fear)

I think back to all the times I have not approached and kicked myself for not doing it when I wanted to to and it ends there....YOU LIVE LIFE ONCE SO GO FOR IT,CHANCES ARE YOU WILL NEVER SEE HER AGAIN!

2)Your mindset during the approaching(from the start of eyecontact to the end)

My mindset is simple,I can rock this chicks world or not,it's up to her to see if she can handle me.
 

Cruise

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1)What do you think before start approaching(I mean your mindset or attitude to destroy the fear)

**** it. Never a bad time to make new friends.

2)Your mindset during the approaching(from the start of eyecontact to the end)

Got dayum this ***** gonna get the wind knocked out of her... :yes:
And... scene.
 

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1)What do you think before start approaching(I mean your mindset or attitude to destroy the fear)

These greyhouds are awesome, but I'm almost out cash! Hmmmm she's cute, maybe she'll be up to buy a round so I can extend my night a little bit longer.

2)Your mindset during the approaching(from the start of eyecontact to the end)

I hope she's got enough money for cab fare back to her place cause i'm gonna get trashed and I'll be damned if she's going to town on my clutch. If I blow this one...well there's always plan b.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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1) I know I've dated more beautiful girls than this, so i have nothing to fear. If she'll blow me off I have a great chance to find something better.

2) You are speaking to a great guy. Kind of a guy you rarely meet. I hope you don't blow this off because I'll walk the second you give bs.
 

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phoenix_met said:
Hi guys
I want your ideas about these things:

1)What do you think before start approaching(I mean your mindset or attitude to destroy the fear)

2)Your mindset during the approaching(from the start of eyecontact to the end)

If you help me I will probably find a good way to destroy the fear
1) My mindset is that I'm going to make her day/night, and this is going to be a fun, exciting experience for both of us.

2) Pretty much covered in #1
 

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1. Don't care about what happens. I know beforehand that she would love I talk to them and know them better.

2. Focus on her, genuinely interested in her, at the same time mantaining good composure, posture & sexual flirting. Just concentrate on being normal, let her do most of the talk and not screwing it up, it's not rocket science. She's already into you. Just wait for her sex signals to show up, and then suggest to get out alone or get her contact.
 

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*Before approach Sexual state*

My mindset thanks to RSD instructors
"Don't think, just BE and DO"
"You are not a PUA unless you are a closer"
"Run the Train"
"All rejection is feedback"
"Take nothing personal"

The first 3 are new to me so haven't really implemented them yet but soon will and I can see huge improvement because I need to start running the TRAINN!!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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kyphan

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Before I answer, let's face it: you need a constant positive mindset in the first place. If you enjoy being yourself, if you believe in you, life is so much better.

Now, I no longer think the way I'm about to tell you, I have no problems approaching just about any human being if I want to. What I put down is exactly how I got myself to this point.

1) If I'm "afraid" I think - what's worse: possibly striking out or DEFINITELY never having a girl? Possibly striking out looks like a better option.

2) In the immortal words of Pook, "Oooh la la!" And yes, that's going through my head the entire time. It's laid back, it makes me smile, and it prevents me from overanalyzing something that's probably not worth thinking about.
 
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