"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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What is your idea of an HB?

Die Hard

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I was just wondering... When I think of my 'game' and improving it, I really just think of HB's (8 or higher). Whenever I manage to pick up a HB6 or HB7, I don't really feel like it's an achievement or something to be proud of. I actually know that I can pick a lot of those up, I don't get nervous around them and don't have to make a real effort, they don't require 'skill'.

So I was thinking: Suppose the girls I consider a 6 or 7, are an 8 or 9 in the eyes of most other guys (I know from friends that my standard is pretty high when it comes to looks), that would mean that when I pick them up (which doesn't feel like an achievement to me), most other guys would think of that as an achievement. Maybe my game is much better than I think it is, lol.

Here's my question: Would you guys show me some pics of girls you've picked up in recent years, that you feel kinda 'proud' of? Or even just girls you're trying to pick up now (but didn't have the balls to approach yet, haha), that you feel would be an achievement if you pull it off.

I'll be back later to show some pics of my own :up:
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I certainly think looks matter lot. When I think of the women I really enjoyed being with, they are all quite attractive. However, there is another element, too. They were fun to be with and were not boring people.

Fun + Hot = Good Time

How hot is hot enough? I guess that depends on the person. Either she's hot enough or she's not, and only you can know that.

Posting pics of exes or current girls here is probably not such a good idea.
 

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Die Hard said:
I was just wondering... When I think of my 'game' and improving it, I really just think of HB's (8 or higher). Whenever I manage to pick up a HB6 or HB7, I don't really feel like it's an achievement or something to be proud of. I actually know that I can pick a lot of those up, I don't get nervous around them and don't have to make a real effort, they don't require 'skill'.

So I was thinking: Suppose the girls I consider a 6 or 7, are an 8 or 9 in the eyes of most other guys (I know from friends that my standard is pretty high when it comes to looks), that would mean that when I pick them up (which doesn't feel like an achievement to me), most other guys would think of that as an achievement. Maybe my game is much better than I think it is, lol.
Just keep improving your game and keep getting girls that are better, in YOUR eyes.

Why do you care what other guys think about the girls you get? That is very girly. The goal is not to have *better* game than other guys, the goal is just to be happy. Your competition is yourself.
 

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Die Hard said:
I was just wondering... When I think of my 'game' and improving it, I really just think of HB's (8 or higher). Whenever I manage to pick up a HB6 or HB7, I don't really feel like it's an achievement or something to be proud of. I actually know that I can pick a lot of those up, I don't get nervous around them and don't have to make a real effort, they don't require 'skill'.

So I was thinking: Suppose the girls I consider a 6 or 7, are an 8 or 9 in the eyes of most other guys (I know from friends that my standard is pretty high when it comes to looks), that would mean that when I pick them up (which doesn't feel like an achievement to me), most other guys would think of that as an achievement. Maybe my game is much better than I think it is, lol.

Here's my question: Would you guys show me some pics of girls you've picked up in recent years, that you feel kinda 'proud' of? Or even just girls you're trying to pick up now (but didn't have the balls to approach yet, haha), that you feel would be an achievement if you pull it off.

I'll be back later to show some pics of my own :up:
Anyone I would smash and actually tell my friends about is an HB
 

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I've had several chances to lose the V card with women that weren't only not "hot" to the majority, but did little to nothing for me physically. I refuse to go that route for several reasons...first, the lack of attraction...second, the lack of accomplishment (not so much getting a HB, but getting a girl I want and I find attractive.) I have weird taste, but I never like women that would be 3/4 to the majority (butt ugly women, chubby women and the like.)

My dream women are Gillian Anderson (Scully from X-Files), Jane Leeves (Daphne from Frasier) and Peri Gilpin (Roz from Frasier)...I've heard each of them been called, hot, beautiful, cute, average, and even ugly by some people. To me, it doesn't matter.

That being said, I usually don't like the magazine/playboy type of women. Just not my look anyway, and the attitude that comes with it makes it worse.

I like women with nice, friendly faces, and nice bodies. I don't like the whole snobby/hot look.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Well, here's some examples :D. Note that I'm only rating them by their faces, leaving their body out of the equation. By the way, no girl is an HB10, coz that would sorta mean 'most beautiful in the world'.

The first one is a true HB9 to me, it doesn't get much better than this. This is what I'm becoming a DJ for, haha: http://yfrog.com/eu1055035041572nf1j

This one is an HB8 or 8.5 to me: http://yfrog.com/jo10054699225eqox2j

This one is also an HB8 or HB8.5 too, she's handsome but also sexy: http://yfrog.com/1210271092865qcm1j

This one is also an HB8 or 8.5 to me, she has something b!tchy about her but still quite goodlooking and sexy: http://yfrog.com/7f10325682035c7la2j

So that's the type of girls I really aim for. For this type of girl, I really need to make an effort: I look pretty good but not enough to create attraction with these, I really need to have game to pick one of these up.



And then there are the average girls, who often feel attracted to me without me having to focus on my game. Girls like this:

An HB7, her face looks kinda stupid but she's not ugly. If she has a nice body, I'd fvck her but I wouldn't feel like I've accomplished anything. http://yfrog.com/ed9132814665tmf4j

Another HB7. Not ugly at all but she just looks....meh. I'd turn her down if she came onto me. http://yfrog.com/i38072769735r4h6j


Oh and here's a pic of my BPD ex. She was a real monster, but looks can be deceiving lol: http://yfrog.com/9dbeeeej
 

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There is only fvckable and unfvckable when it comes to pure attraction. Now what you choose because of what you want others to think and to represent yourself is a different matter. I know there have been women who were less than acceptably attractive that I found myself having a thing for, but I wouldn't take them home to meet my mama or around my friends. Fvckable and presentable are two different things.
 

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ya see? beauty is in th eyes of the beholder.... YOU. go for what you like....me and my buds always differ on hotness, go for what you like
 

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Warrior got it.

There's either attraction or there isn't.

Me and my buddies also take it one step further. (Although it started out kinda as a joke, but it's so true.)

1.) Yes, I would absolutely fvck her.
2.) I would fvck her, but I would keep it on DL.
3.) I would have to be extremely wasted.
4.) No.
5.) FVCK NO!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I think some of you misunderstand my meaning. I'm not considering to change my standard or asking for you guys to validate my standard or....whatever!. I'm not looking for advice of any sort, I'm just wondering what you guys go after and am curious to see what girls you would consider an 'achievement' for yourself in case you succeed at picking them up.

In short: More pics, less advice, please :up:
 
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