"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
what is you vision of wedding ?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
what is the difference between the two ? even if i speak well english i still have some problem with that ;p
what is actual wedding, and what is the signing of the marriage license ? and why the first isnt good and the later is ?
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forgot to say
all started with a discussion with my father.
he heard me saying i dont want to get married to my sister and today he came to ask why i dont wanna get married?
so since i read pook and dj bible and anti dump machin i became skeptical about marriage i told him that every women want to get maried for a social status, want you money, women today are *****es, and the most imprtant thing is the fact that she will be more important than her friend and everyone will be jalouse of her, so it's a dream for her
so he told me that i'm wrong and women aren't that way, sure there's some but you need to be dominant and don't let her married you for money, need to tell her what you want, but also make her do what you want (im talking about money wasting)
he also told me that i'm just making excuses and that it's an illusion that i'm living in.
that's why i came to ask you what you're thinking !!
what is actual wedding, and what is the signing of the marriage license ? and why the first isnt good and the later is ?
EDIT:
forgot to say
all started with a discussion with my father.
he heard me saying i dont want to get married to my sister and today he came to ask why i dont wanna get married?
so since i read pook and dj bible and anti dump machin i became skeptical about marriage i told him that every women want to get maried for a social status, want you money, women today are *****es, and the most imprtant thing is the fact that she will be more important than her friend and everyone will be jalouse of her, so it's a dream for her
so he told me that i'm wrong and women aren't that way, sure there's some but you need to be dominant and don't let her married you for money, need to tell her what you want, but also make her do what you want (im talking about money wasting)
he also told me that i'm just making excuses and that it's an illusion that i'm living in.
that's why i came to ask you what you're thinking !!
Equilibrium
Don Juan
The license is only worth it if you have a really good pre-nup, otherwise it can be a massive liability. If a woman divorces you, you are probably going to be ruined financially. It puts the law entirely on her side. I would not rule out marriage though, it's really the only healthy way to raise kids, so if you want TheMale Jr.'s to inhabit the future, marriage should be an eventually goal (with a good pre-nup, or no license of course).
You can't hate on women for wanting social status and financial security, as they're hardwired to desire it. Of course you don't want gold diggers, but those are easy to filter out, and a pre-nup nullifies them for the most part. Not all women are *****es either, if that were true, then there would be absolutely no women to even game - I know I would not hang out with a girl I considered a ***** even if she was hot. Not worth my time.
I plan to eventually marry the right girl and get a prenup, while making sure I keep reading about game to keep my skills sharp and continue "courting her," and I will tell her I expect her to stay in shape and dress like a woman. Those are reasonable expectations, especially if you agree to also stay in shape and bring home the bacon (I would not marry a girl who wasn't cool with being a stay at home mom, at least for some years).
You can't hate on women for wanting social status and financial security, as they're hardwired to desire it. Of course you don't want gold diggers, but those are easy to filter out, and a pre-nup nullifies them for the most part. Not all women are *****es either, if that were true, then there would be absolutely no women to even game - I know I would not hang out with a girl I considered a ***** even if she was hot. Not worth my time.
I plan to eventually marry the right girl and get a prenup, while making sure I keep reading about game to keep my skills sharp and continue "courting her," and I will tell her I expect her to stay in shape and dress like a woman. Those are reasonable expectations, especially if you agree to also stay in shape and bring home the bacon (I would not marry a girl who wasn't cool with being a stay at home mom, at least for some years).
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
aaron: you took it to your advantage.
Equilibrium: you have a good point here.
you said you want a stay at home mom, but you think you can actually take care of the bacon problem by yourself ? you dont think it'll be better to bring 2 salaries ?
how can you find the right chick ? what is your criteria of a right woman ?
see i'm jewish and in my religion if you wanna get married you have to do a religious ceremony so that your child can get married one day
if you married only on civil marriage you're child are 'bastard' and they can't get married easily, that was the probleme of my cousin.
anyway we must do a contract and signing paper that you give her something
the minimum is 8000$ (just so she can live for one year under your money)
so there's no way to avoid it !
but i have a question about how people think over here:
they say, she's gonna do the first move to become exclusive (ok maybe) and to get married, i'm in no way gonna do something about it.
so why ??? do they think all women are ready to ask them ? you are the man you need to take the lead, right ?
p.s. so you guys think, to have find the right chick i need to rely on anti dump machine ?
Equilibrium: you have a good point here.
you said you want a stay at home mom, but you think you can actually take care of the bacon problem by yourself ? you dont think it'll be better to bring 2 salaries ?
how can you find the right chick ? what is your criteria of a right woman ?
see i'm jewish and in my religion if you wanna get married you have to do a religious ceremony so that your child can get married one day
if you married only on civil marriage you're child are 'bastard' and they can't get married easily, that was the probleme of my cousin.
anyway we must do a contract and signing paper that you give her something
the minimum is 8000$ (just so she can live for one year under your money)
so there's no way to avoid it !
but i have a question about how people think over here:
they say, she's gonna do the first move to become exclusive (ok maybe) and to get married, i'm in no way gonna do something about it.
so why ??? do they think all women are ready to ask them ? you are the man you need to take the lead, right ?
p.s. so you guys think, to have find the right chick i need to rely on anti dump machine ?
Equilibrium
Don Juan
I can easily bring home the bacon. I have degrees in 3 subject areas not to mention the Army behind me which offers quite generous packages for married men, including base housing which is often good - especially if you are an officer (I'm not yet, I wanted to enlist so I could lock down a specific career path rather than be assigned to a job by the Army, but I will in 2-3 years). I wouldn't consider marriage unless I was positive I could bring home the bacon, because I want my wife to stay home and raise my Equilibrium Jrs. You should work at getting to the point where it's a given that you could bring home the bacon if you want a stay at home wife, or a wife who works part time. I know I could do it right now even on enlisted pay and benefits.
In terms of getting a wife, from my studies of game I gather you treat it as you treat "I love you." Never say I love you first, and don't bring up marriage until she does. Of course you will in all likelihood propose first, but not until she starts bring to bring it up or make comments on how she wants to be with you forever, etc. They're fairly clear signals. I was engaged once so I know the rodeo to some degree.
In terms of getting a wife, from my studies of game I gather you treat it as you treat "I love you." Never say I love you first, and don't bring up marriage until she does. Of course you will in all likelihood propose first, but not until she starts bring to bring it up or make comments on how she wants to be with you forever, etc. They're fairly clear signals. I was engaged once so I know the rodeo to some degree.
The ceremony itself can be outrageously expensive. Why spend 20-40k on a wedding when that can be used towards a downpayment on a house/condo etc.
The laws pertaining to marriage are outdated and therefore marriage is not a fiscally sound decision for men if you have money or anticpate earning lots of money.
The laws pertaining to marriage are outdated and therefore marriage is not a fiscally sound decision for men if you have money or anticpate earning lots of money.
equilibrium: how old are you ?!!!
i don't know for the US army, but when you see it in movie, all the soldier (USA army) are rarely at home, they are in iraq, they are in missions, but not often at home, even if they are married.
i did army but it sucks for married people, maybe here it's that way, but friends of mine who were married, could see their wife only the WE, and some of them only a WE of 2,3 and the payement, like a basic salary outside the army, the minimum.
The_411: yeah it's expensive but it's once in a lifetime (assuming you married the right one) and you want it to be memorable, with your friends, your family, her friends and family. even if it's 20-40k, it may worth it.
i'm not married but that's how people do it since ever (i mean since money started i'm not talking about the ice age ! ;p)
are you married 411 ?
guys, what is the right chick to marry for you ?
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another question: everyone saying, you need to stay a mystery, a challenge for her, even after years of marriage ? how can it actually getting into action ? how can you stay a challenge or mystery even after you're marry ?
i don't know for the US army, but when you see it in movie, all the soldier (USA army) are rarely at home, they are in iraq, they are in missions, but not often at home, even if they are married.
i did army but it sucks for married people, maybe here it's that way, but friends of mine who were married, could see their wife only the WE, and some of them only a WE of 2,3 and the payement, like a basic salary outside the army, the minimum.
The_411: yeah it's expensive but it's once in a lifetime (assuming you married the right one) and you want it to be memorable, with your friends, your family, her friends and family. even if it's 20-40k, it may worth it.
i'm not married but that's how people do it since ever (i mean since money started i'm not talking about the ice age ! ;p)
are you married 411 ?
guys, what is the right chick to marry for you ?
EDIT:
another question: everyone saying, you need to stay a mystery, a challenge for her, even after years of marriage ? how can it actually getting into action ? how can you stay a challenge or mystery even after you're marry ?
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Equilibrium
Don Juan
I'm 24. We deploy for 9 months (or 6 months for some gigs) then return home for awhile. From what I see, military guys have some of the best marriages, believe it or not, and I attribute it to the occasional time apart. The women are constantly worrying about their men and don't get bored of them easily because they're not around 100% of the time, plus, they are often concerned about their man cheating and try harder than most women to stay attractive and desirable to be around (at least in the combat fields, FOB's are a somewhat different story). Most of them are from the South anyway which has much better women than the North. I think being away at war for 9 months is great for a man - you bond with other men, do badass things, collect letters and nudes from the girls back home, etc. Then you get back and you're loved all the more because what's not around is appreciated much more. Not to mention, no one ever talks about this, but, the local girls can be hot. Some SF dudes come back with bangin' Colombian wives.
The married guys I know are able to take care of their families well. You need to consider the average package for a soldier is about 99k. That includes housing, cheap stuff at the PX, 100% free health care for the entire family, sometimes a free car to drive depending on the assignment, and more. The families who don't do well are spendthrifts who piss money - they would do even worse in the civilian world.
In my opinion, you need to make a list of what you want in a woman. I have a list on my computer which reads:
Shares my religion
Shares my values
Loyal
Pro-military
Supportive
Family oriented.
Intelligent
Self-sufficient.
Responsible
Good impulse control
She should have hobbies and stuff that will keep her off Facebook all day.
That's my "bulletpoint checklist" for marriage. I built it off others I've seen in the community over the past month and will keep adding to it without making it too rigid.
The married guys I know are able to take care of their families well. You need to consider the average package for a soldier is about 99k. That includes housing, cheap stuff at the PX, 100% free health care for the entire family, sometimes a free car to drive depending on the assignment, and more. The families who don't do well are spendthrifts who piss money - they would do even worse in the civilian world.
In my opinion, you need to make a list of what you want in a woman. I have a list on my computer which reads:
Shares my religion
Shares my values
Loyal
Pro-military
Supportive
Family oriented.
Intelligent
Self-sufficient.
Responsible
Good impulse control
She should have hobbies and stuff that will keep her off Facebook all day.
That's my "bulletpoint checklist" for marriage. I built it off others I've seen in the community over the past month and will keep adding to it without making it too rigid.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
I just got married last june, my wife wanted a pretty big wedding and considering this is the **** that women dream of their entire lives, I was like just let me know what you want and it will be done, i'm not going to argue over this, it's your day. the wedding was p retty expensive. we had it outside the country and i had to fly alot of my family there. it wasn't like 100k or antyhing but.. it wasn't cheap.
anyway, the kicker, we are on the honeymoon, about 4 days into it, we are sitting on the beach (bahamas) and she just randomly says "you know honestly... I mean the wedding was nice and thanks for doing what i wanted but i don't think it was worth the money" lol, GEE THANKS.
it's funny because everyone says "it's your day" but in reality it's not. you spend the whole day making sure everyone else is happy and making sure that your drunk ass uncle doesn't drink too much or that your dad isn't hitting on on your wife's sister and **** like that, and making sure your mom, who can't drink 1 beer without getting tipsy doesn't start letting everyone know "how she really feels" about the wedding.,
even with that said, had we not done what she wanted she would have still wanted it. its done now, it is what it is, but i could not wait to get on the plane to go to the honeymoon i was freaking wedded out and so was she.
i did it once, and it was a lifetime expeirence. i'm sure i will look back on the experience n the future years with more gratitude, but it's something i wouldn't do again.
anyway, the kicker, we are on the honeymoon, about 4 days into it, we are sitting on the beach (bahamas) and she just randomly says "you know honestly... I mean the wedding was nice and thanks for doing what i wanted but i don't think it was worth the money" lol, GEE THANKS.
it's funny because everyone says "it's your day" but in reality it's not. you spend the whole day making sure everyone else is happy and making sure that your drunk ass uncle doesn't drink too much or that your dad isn't hitting on on your wife's sister and **** like that, and making sure your mom, who can't drink 1 beer without getting tipsy doesn't start letting everyone know "how she really feels" about the wedding.,
even with that said, had we not done what she wanted she would have still wanted it. its done now, it is what it is, but i could not wait to get on the plane to go to the honeymoon i was freaking wedded out and so was she.
i did it once, and it was a lifetime expeirence. i'm sure i will look back on the experience n the future years with more gratitude, but it's something i wouldn't do again.
Marriage? What is that? That is NEVER going to happen!!!
No way in hell I'm going to jeopardize my goals and accomplishments with the possibility of a divorce.
A ceremony would be fine and dandy if I can afford that luxury in the future but as for now.. NO WAY IN HELL!!!
You want marriage? Guess what? It starts right now as soon as you enter a relationship with me.
EDIT: Marriage in my book is like the red flag of "buy her love".
No way in hell I'm going to jeopardize my goals and accomplishments with the possibility of a divorce.
A ceremony would be fine and dandy if I can afford that luxury in the future but as for now.. NO WAY IN HELL!!!
You want marriage? Guess what? It starts right now as soon as you enter a relationship with me.
EDIT: Marriage in my book is like the red flag of "buy her love".
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
dude you are 21 years old. grow some hair on your nutts before making sweeping generalizations about what you will or will not doLeopold said:
Equilibrium: you right saying that far from them make them waiting for you, and this 'little' pause, is healthy for a relationship, but 9 months ???
i know in my period army we always laugh about that line: 'you're sitting here doing patrol, missions etc. while your girlfriend/wife sitting on her boss's c0ck !'
yeah sounds funny but that was something happened (not necessarily boss) frequently.
i'm not sure how a 6 month will be good for you, maybe 1,2 weeks but not more, just saying.
backbreaker: congrats ! you right, if you find the right chick, so it'll be once in a lifetime, but why did you took the risk of paying so much, without knowing if it'll last for all your life ?
another question, why did you decide give up this freedom and the possibility to fvck a lot of chicks and decided to have just one ??
bigneil: i really respect your opinion about DJing and stuff, cause since im here i see a lot of your posts, and it's really great stuff.
but, i wanna know why do you prefer to stay unmarried, have a lot of chicks and die ? your purpose in life it's: work, have fun, doing some crazy things, fvck a lot of chicks and die ?
what about children ? do you want some ? how are you gonna raise them without a real stable relationship ?
do you, guys, think getting married, translate giving up on your dreams and goal ??
do you think that once your married you're no longer able to accomplish ALL your dreams (we're not gonna be blind, you can do some of them but all ?) ???
EDIT: and what about the sex ? if i rely on what everyone saying, sex isn't really present after years of marriage, why ?? attraction ? else?
i know in my period army we always laugh about that line: 'you're sitting here doing patrol, missions etc. while your girlfriend/wife sitting on her boss's c0ck !'
yeah sounds funny but that was something happened (not necessarily boss) frequently.
i'm not sure how a 6 month will be good for you, maybe 1,2 weeks but not more, just saying.
backbreaker: congrats ! you right, if you find the right chick, so it'll be once in a lifetime, but why did you took the risk of paying so much, without knowing if it'll last for all your life ?
another question, why did you decide give up this freedom and the possibility to fvck a lot of chicks and decided to have just one ??
bigneil: i really respect your opinion about DJing and stuff, cause since im here i see a lot of your posts, and it's really great stuff.
but, i wanna know why do you prefer to stay unmarried, have a lot of chicks and die ? your purpose in life it's: work, have fun, doing some crazy things, fvck a lot of chicks and die ?
what about children ? do you want some ? how are you gonna raise them without a real stable relationship ?
do you, guys, think getting married, translate giving up on your dreams and goal ??
do you think that once your married you're no longer able to accomplish ALL your dreams (we're not gonna be blind, you can do some of them but all ?) ???
EDIT: and what about the sex ? if i rely on what everyone saying, sex isn't really present after years of marriage, why ?? attraction ? else?
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
1. becuase i can.
2. because i don't want to fvck other women anymore.
Instead of me writing all this out again, we have this same discussion every week in the mature forum lol, i'm just going to copy and paste what i put there in a particular thread that I believe answers the question more thoroughly
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backbreaker
Master Don Juan
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Damn BB, introduce me your wife ! ;p
more seriously, how do you know she'll not sleep with someone else ?
i know you love her she loves you, but it's not a guarantee she'll not sleeping with someone else, or flirting with other people when you're not around !
BTW after your speech, you convinced me to get married as soon as i find someone great that worth to live with (not right away, after 1,2 years of relationship)!
but it's not always easy to find someone who'll let you live your dreams and desire the fullest you want, it's not always easy to find someone who will give you that space.
it shouldnt be a turn off for me to get married, but it's definitely makes you think, and woman are not always sincere about what they saying they'll do (i.e. they'll give you the space/living your dreams without getting involved etc.) and you can't never know what's goind on her mind.
my cousin for example are in a relationship with a chick for one year now, she was raped at 13, and her mother are psychologically ill, she's telling her all day long she's a *****, a hooker, open her leg for everyone etc. and this chick want to get married realy fast (in 8 months) so she can get out of her home.
i asked a shrink about that, he told me that my cousin should not get married to her, she have psychological problem, she'll actually get married to get out of home, but will divorce in 2 years, get back home, but once she was married her mother can't say anything and she'll be the hero of familly (and that kind of situation are frequente) you see, i dont want to find someone like that, that hiding her secret (lucky him, she told him about her problems), and finally be the victime of this story.
i also had a friend who got married after 3 years of relationship, they loved each other and thought they were meant to be together for a lifetime, 3 months after the wedding she slept with someone else, for those 3 moths they had sex for 1 time, and 2 months before the wedding the chick told her father she want to cancel the wedding.
how to be so fine with wedding after some stories like that (and i have more) ?!
another thought i have in mind is that, for now you have grea sex, maybe every day, but in 10 years, it'll be just once a week, in 15 years it'll be once a month, and in 20 years it'll be once a year if you get lucky !
you see, the marriage for me, maybe can be a good thing but after a while you're no longer a couple, but you're more like a great friends living together.
i see it all the time, with friends of my parents, my parents, friends of mine who's married 5 years ago.
more seriously, how do you know she'll not sleep with someone else ?
i know you love her she loves you, but it's not a guarantee she'll not sleeping with someone else, or flirting with other people when you're not around !
BTW after your speech, you convinced me to get married as soon as i find someone great that worth to live with (not right away, after 1,2 years of relationship)!
but it's not always easy to find someone who'll let you live your dreams and desire the fullest you want, it's not always easy to find someone who will give you that space.
it shouldnt be a turn off for me to get married, but it's definitely makes you think, and woman are not always sincere about what they saying they'll do (i.e. they'll give you the space/living your dreams without getting involved etc.) and you can't never know what's goind on her mind.
my cousin for example are in a relationship with a chick for one year now, she was raped at 13, and her mother are psychologically ill, she's telling her all day long she's a *****, a hooker, open her leg for everyone etc. and this chick want to get married realy fast (in 8 months) so she can get out of her home.
i asked a shrink about that, he told me that my cousin should not get married to her, she have psychological problem, she'll actually get married to get out of home, but will divorce in 2 years, get back home, but once she was married her mother can't say anything and she'll be the hero of familly (and that kind of situation are frequente) you see, i dont want to find someone like that, that hiding her secret (lucky him, she told him about her problems), and finally be the victime of this story.
i also had a friend who got married after 3 years of relationship, they loved each other and thought they were meant to be together for a lifetime, 3 months after the wedding she slept with someone else, for those 3 moths they had sex for 1 time, and 2 months before the wedding the chick told her father she want to cancel the wedding.
how to be so fine with wedding after some stories like that (and i have more) ?!
another thought i have in mind is that, for now you have grea sex, maybe every day, but in 10 years, it'll be just once a week, in 15 years it'll be once a month, and in 20 years it'll be once a year if you get lucky !
you see, the marriage for me, maybe can be a good thing but after a while you're no longer a couple, but you're more like a great friends living together.
i see it all the time, with friends of my parents, my parents, friends of mine who's married 5 years ago.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
lol i'm not a pyhysic I don't know that. but i would not have married her if i thought honestly she would. we dated for a few years before I proposed and she never gave me the slightest hint as to being unfaithful.
There are not guarantees in antyhing with life. If she does that's just a bridge I will cross when it happens. Being a DJ does not mean it will ever prevent her from doing something like that but it does mean I know how to act (leave no questions asked) if it does. It means that I can pick my life up on the dating scene if I ever have to and not have to resort to trying to rekindle some lost spark or some BS like that.
that is why I am others are such great proponent of spinning plates. i have a great woman I know that, but I mean, it isn't like she is a goddess or something like I'm just the first guy to ever notice her. she's been in relationships with guys before. she's dumped guys before. she's been the wishy washy girl who doesn't know what she wants before. she's dated guys who have no long term value before just like all young 20 year olds do at some point.
part of it is her upbringing and her moral character, but part of it is FRAME. Frame that can only be achieved by making a woman EARN the right to have a relationship with you and not take you for granted. I mean we really do click, and we really do have a lot of the same interest and she really does fit me like a glove but none of that would matter if she felt like she was doing me a favor by dating me or that she felt she was the prize in the relationship. This is why I will preach plate spinning until I can't talk anymore, because in 2012, I feel it's the only way you can lay the proper framework for a LONG TERM relationship that will still have the same value as it did when you first started it. In a world where women can jump from branch to branch, you have to give a woman a reason not to want to leave the tree she is on. Part of that is just by being a catch which I feel that I am, and part of that is by making her earn the right to be exclusive.
No, never been married. I certainly could have been but it would have been a train wreck with BPD ex. She wanted to get married 5-7 months into the relationship.TheMale said:
I don't have a problem with marriage it's just that spending all that money seems crazy because I'd rather use it on a house. My other issue is the fact that men get railroaded by child support alimony palimony etc. You're entering into an uneven contract that very rarely is mitigated by morally corrupt actions by a spouse. We already have uneven contracts like cell phone bills, cable etc.
I get that in theory that I you love some it shouldn't matter but that was the old pre-BPD ex me who was duped into the idealistic concept of marriage. However, after seeing the flaming wreckage up close in personal I think that you'd better be damn sure or understand there's a high chance you'll be owning money for a long time.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.