"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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What is wrong with this girl?

cobra commander

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Ok a little back story:

Younger girl.. went to my high school currently still goes there while I'm in college (hey just a freshman, not exactly cradle-robbin' yet). We've hung out a few times and it seemed I never got the chance to kiss her.. she's told friends who I am friends with she thinks I'm sweet etc etc and whatnot and she likes me...

We usually talk daily but I stopped talking to her while she was in another state for thanksgiving... she had her **** to do and i certainly was busy as well.

She always asks if I am mad at her when I don't talk to her for long periods of time.

I am beginning to think she wants to have me in her back pocket and when she doesn't she wants to lure me back in. This relationship is going nowhere.

I've asked to hang out on several occasions but it seems our schedules conflict and I always have work whereas she has school and dances.. Granted she does have a big weekend ahead of her... but wouldn't you think she'd make time for me if she TRULEY liked me?

Any other signs that I should look for before I end up kissing her? I don't want to get rejected as it would be humiliating to say the least.

Well I'm off to the gym so I'll read the replies when I get back.

Out.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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She would attempt to make time for you if she really was in to you.

As far as signs go. Don't stress yourself out over the signs.

But if you insist:

Eye Contact for extended periods....(10 secs or more).

Nice smiles :) a nice full smile.....so girls bat there eyes when they smile at someone they like....some don't.

Try touching her and see how she responds....if she seems distant and negative about it....just leave it alone....if she's positive about it and doesn't seem to care...it could be a sign of interest/ Try to stroke her hair or something...and see how she takes it.

The next time you talk to her.....be aware of how close she's willing to stand to you.....if you try to move in closer and she moves back....then she she doesn't like you...but if she stands still...and continues to smile...she probably likes you.

If you can see her pupils....look into her eyes, see if they get larger....be aware that lighting can cause pupil dialation...

Good Luck:cool:
 

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Yes you are right - if she truly liked you she would make time for you. She is just enjoying the attention you are giving her and unfortunately it doesn't look like anything more.

I would cut all contact personally. You may find that helps the situation sometime down the road.
 

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You're in college, how bout you give a try to dating COLLEGE girls? I know it sounds crazy but apparently girls get pretty active in that first freshman year and they probably don't have sh*t to do.

If you still want to go after your little HS crush then by all means do so but you should keep yourself honest and persue other people in your college as well.

Get out, socialize got to parties you might (or more likely will) meet some one who's just as nice and will be most likely be on the same page you are.
 

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Thanks for the responses guys... I think i'll just be over it.. some dingus is trying to get with her now anyway so I'll just let him. He can knock himself out for all I care.

God I love this place.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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