"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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What is wrong with girls?

KEddie

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I've been working on this girl for the last two weeks or so, and things were getting pretty good until last night. Last night she brought not one but TWO different guys up to our hang out at different times. I was like WTF, is she trying to make me jealous or what? So I played it aloof like I didn't care and went about my business.

I don't get it though. Last week we were playing around and having a good time, and now she's bringing these stupid guys up. My professional opinion is to next her, even though I was hoping to have at least one round in the ring with her.

I'll probably see her next week sometime, and I've already decided that it's either going to be the last time, or possibly the beginning if she stops playing her girly games.

What do you guys think?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Bvbidd

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Mabye she's a real person who talks to other guys?

She's not playing a game.. she's just meeting other guys.
I don't get your point. If your "playing around" why would she think otherwise?

I mean seriously.. she probally thinks nothing of it.
It's not a sh!t test or anything.. she's just going on with her life.
If it's a problem tell her. She'll leave you.. but I mean if it's bothering you so much.. let her know.
This is your problem not hers.
 

KEddie

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She probabl doesn't. It just seemed like she was doing it intentionally to make me jealous or something. It's not like I'm bringing up the other girls that I meet.

Does that make sense?
 

everywomanshero

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Dude, reality check;

You straight trippin over some girl you aren't even with in any capacity.

You can't NEXT someone you can't get to agree to be involved with you. You simply get snubbed. AT the same time you're right, you don't have to care what she thinks or have her a part of your existence.

The ultimate cause of this problem in the first place:

Are you really getting at least 12 new leads each week. Go to bars, find them online, make sure you have at least 12 new leads to follow each week. That means you will have to approach far more.

She's just a friend at this point. I would try to bang her, anyway. Decide is she's going to be bangable or not. If she's totally not bangable, then guess what her new role is? Truly a friend. Start really treating her like a friend. Use her as a sociological experiment to learn about women. Use her as social proof to help PU other chicks. Remember to make it look like she's after you. It's just part of the smoke and mirrors routine, but it does make a difference when combined with other beneficial factors.

There isn't really an answer to this question so much as there is a solution to it. It really doesn't matter what any one chick is doing|thinking|feeling at this level in the game. Even if you sleep witha girl once, you still aren't with her in any capacity. Girl's give out #s and make out with random guys all the time. It doesn't mean anything. It's normal for them.
 

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KEddie said:
Last night she brought not one but TWO different guys up to our hang out at different times.
I see your problem. You live in a tree-house.:p
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Trapper

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they might be real friends of her.. so watch out..
 

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realsmoothie said:
I see your problem. You live in a tree-house.:p
rofl, that's what i was wondering... what do you mean your "hang out"?
 

KEddie

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Perhaps I do live in a tree house, but at least I don't waste my days on some internet forum pretending that I know everything there is to know about women.

I remember when you could come to this forum and actually get advice from your peers and everyone would benifit from it. Nowadays, it seems like real thoughts and advice are few and far between. So, props to everywomanshero and Bvbidd for taking the time to formulate real input on the subject.

As for what is meant by hang out. Every week me and a bunch of friends show up to a restaurant and loiter around a fvck off. And so the girl in question is a waitress there, but she just comes up there anyway on her off day to hang out with me.

So yeah, when she brings other guys up it confuses me, since she has no other reason to be there. Or maybe she does I don't know.
 

TillTheEndOfTime

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KEddie said:
Perhaps I do live in a tree house, but at least I don't waste my days on some internet forum pretending that I know everything there is to know about women.
The irony of making fun of people for wasting time on an internet forum....while making fun of them on that same internet forum..... :crackup:
 

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Why are so many of you ok with her bringing 2 guys to hang out with. I would of been like "F that".
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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arlanda

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bud_2005 said:
Why are so many of you ok with her bringing 2 guys to hang out with. I would of been like "F that".
Maybe because KEddie and that lady are just friends?

They haven't kissed, made out or anything but had a good time so the girl has no obligation towards him.
 

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That's disrespectful..next her..
 

KEddie

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Actually, we have swapped spit, and I've copped a feel. And truthfully, I don't think that counts for much, I mean sure it's Kino, but after last weeks display it seems like free samples from the grocery store.

My plan is this week to basically giver her an ultimatum. That sounds bad, but it's the only word I can think of. Anyway, I'm just going to tell her that if she's actually interested then I'm all for it if, not that's fine too, but I'm not wasting my time with games. And then that's it.
 
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