"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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What is with her behavior?

The LadyKiller

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I met a HB8 at my work a couple of months ago, but she has been acting strangely the past couple of weeks. I'm not pursuing her or anything of the sort, but want to figure out what her game is.

When I was first introduced to her, she rebuffed nearly any attempt at conversation. She seems quiet regardless, but I could sense this girl wanted little to do with me. I rarely saw her, so no big deal. Well, her hours changed recently so that our schedules overlap for a couple of hours a day. For the past week or so, HB8 walks into work, sees where I'm sitting and beelines for the seat next to me (when other open seats are available). Today, she sat elsewhere while I was out working on something, I returned to my seat briefly and left, when I came back she was stationed in the seat next to me. However, like before, she barely talks! I have a 50/50 shot of getting more than a one or two word answer out of her. Very strange.

Any idea what this is? Usually a girl who is interested would be a little more, you know, outgoing. If she rebuffs me so often, why is she sitting next to me every day? Like I said before, I'm trying to figure it out here on the forum because it's odd and for some reason it befuddles me.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Reykhel

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Nobody here is a mindreader

Although a few claim to be. See cbt errors in thinking.
 

sazc

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reading this post, the one thing that came to mind was the two school kids/young adults who, on meeting, absolutely despise each other, only to find a passion for each other and end up fuking like wild dogs.

that said, remember, this is work. Continue to be aloof and let her come to you, if that is where she is headed. Maybe she's just BPD or crazy in disguise
 

jester1x

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It's rather easy to figure this one out. She probably became curious because you don't pay her much if any attention at all. Most attractive women aren't used to men not paying them any attention. So, she could be looking for an ego stroke from you in particular or to hook up with you. Up to you to figure which one is the case.

She rebuffed you and you stopped any attempt to interact with her. Shows you have pride and self respect. She is probably not used to a man acting that way towards her.

A lot of men would keep pushing and pushing everyday (especially at work) until she tells them to go away, files a sexual harassment claim with HR or maybe both.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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RangerMIke

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Work is work... Play is play. Forget about this woman. NOTHING good comes from work romance. There are PLENTY of women you can date without sh!ting where you eat. My guess is that she has figured this out and isn't interested is screwing up her professional life by fvcking a work dude.
 

sazc

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Remember this rule:

Don't analyze women you are not f*cking.

Until this b!tch behaves in a way that benefits you.. ignore her existence. She doesn't matter until she demonstrates sexual interest, submission, and friendliness.

Only desperate men chase after sour, grumpy, b!tchy women.
This is important. Time is wasted and wheels are turned on females that have no bearing on *your* life. This is time and energy that should be devoted to females that have potential and/or other interests.
 

wifehunter

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Lead! and if she follows, she'll have to drop the BS.

Work relations are a "tread carefully" zone. Make sure you have an out! Also, gossip could ruin you. If you are going to continue, I'd start looking for a new job.
 
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