"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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recently ive been going out with this girl. She seems to like me a lot. Recently there were a couple of deaths in her family, and friends, and she said she just wanted to be friends. when i asked why the sudden change she said because she went home and found she still have feelings for someone who she knows will never go out with her again. she says she liked me and she still does but doesnt want to admit it. where do i go frome here. stop trying, or what?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Go for others

Go for others, and -- as David DeAngelo says, give her the gift of missing you. Then I bet she'll come back to you before long.

And if you find another gal, well, she had her chance but she blew it. Take a gal who's into reality over one who's into fantasy any time.
 

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Re: Go for others

Originally posted by Bonhomme
Go for others, and -- as David DeAngelo says, give her the gift of missing you. Then I bet she'll come back to you before long.

And if you find another gal, well, she had her chance but she blew it. Take a gal who's into reality over one who's into fantasy any time.
This is true. Go for girls that actually knows that she wants to spend time with you.
 

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Well, and I may get critcized for saying this, I think you should find some other love interest but at the same time keep in touch. I say this because it sounds like she's going through a pretty rough time right now and could use someone to talk to..
 
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