Field Report
After canceling dinner with Amy last Tuesday(details in the thread...) there was no contact with her. Before I continue, I'd like to stress some points about Amy that really bother me.
1. I have called her twice and she doesn't pick up. When I confronted her about this, she gives some excuse and follows it up with the generalization "I don't like phones!"
2. The only way we have contacted each other outside the bar is through FB and MSN messages(she never goes online to chat).
Anyway, Amy was DJ-ing on Thursday night(as usual) but I didn't go as I had other plans. However, I popped in for a drink late Friday night(after 12:30).
Her first reaction was to pout and act disappointed and asked why I hadn't come on Thursday..I reply "well, I was busy...but I'm sure you had many other friends here, so I bet you were OK"
She replies "It was OK, but I really wanted you to be here and I had CD's you liked and stuff to play for you..."
There weren't too many people present at this time, so we sit together at the bar and talk.
In all honesty, we do connect when it comes to conversation and it is fun to talk with her, however all sorts of stuff happened.
At some point I notice a mark on her shoulder and she asks me to "kiss it and make it better..."
Of course, there was no way I would do such comply with this and told her she'd have to get somebody else to kiss it... Then , funnily enough, she almost burns my hand with her cigarette....then just grabs my hand and kisses it. Continuing, we talk about all sorts of issues and it comes up that she will be in London for a concert in 2 weeks. We both live in southern Europe, and I comment that I had been to London recently. She then says she'd love it if I came along. When I ask about accommodation, she says I can stay in the hotel room with her.
Furthermore, I notice that almost all night, she touched very often and liked to keep her hands on my legs. I also leaned on her thighs....
Interesting note is that there was this guy(with another group of people) treating her to shots.
At some point, she just asks me to dance and we dance. She laughs and comments that the guy is really jealous so I tell her maybe she should go keep him company....She says she wants to stay with me but says that she'll go over and "play" him for more shots. We keep talking and he makes a couple of efforts to get some action, but she just talks to him a bit then leaves him(after drinking up all his free shots...) After a while, he just departs....
At some point, it was late, so I get ready to depart. She was talking with the DJ(not my friend Chris, another DJ who works there..) about something and I said "goodnight". I am surprised to see that it is almost as if I am not there... She doesn't respond, she just seemed emotionally involved in something the DJ was saying.
Talk about incongruent behavior or what?
Saturday Night
Last night, a friend was having a small birthday party at the bar again, and as I was on a date, I pass by late, around 2:30 AM.
The atmosphere was fun and Chris(the DJ who is also seeing her) was spinning on the decks.A lot of my friends were there, as was SANDRA(Chris's on and off GF;although I really don't know what kind of relationship they have now that Amy is in the picture....)
Me and Amy greet but we soon start bugging each and teasing each other.... At some point I call her a Biatch and she calls me a "Biatch"(girl has a mouth on her) and I tell her that I can prove I am no such thing....she says she wants to see that up close and personal....
Anyway, alcohol is flowing and I am having great fun with Sandra(Chris's GF, 25) and Elli(a friend, 26).
I was very flirtatious towards both of them;they seemed to be enjoying it and reciprocating.
Amy was working but spent time talking to a "regular" at the bar. Howver, she did come over once or twice to check out the situation with me and the girls. This was an interesting point, because Amy(who is seeing Chris) talked with Sandra(Chris's GF)... I thought sparks would fly, but it was OK. I can't believe how Chris has set up such an arrangement!
AT some point , I move a bit further away from my group, and Amy comes up and says she wants a hug. We hug and she buries her face in my neck. She then says she wants to tell me something. She then seems to think it over and says she really shouldn't. I get a bit angry because she pull sh*t like this often, so I ask what is up with her?
Again, she says it is nothing.
After that, I remain cool, but I spend the remainder of the night having fun with Sandra and Elli, mostly ignoring Amy.
In fact, I leave with them at around 7am.
Leaving, I say goodbye to Amy but just touch hands...nothing more.
Anyway, from what I can tell, Amy has serious issues. She is an attention Ho and likes to play push-pull, hot-cold and mystery lady.
Yet at the same time, I am pretty certain she does dig me, and I should definitely be able to -at least- get her in bed.
How do fellow DJers recommend I proceed with her?
BTW, Sandra made a pass on me while I was taking her home so I guess she is really starting to get pissed off with Chris.
Finally, he and Amy didn't seem so lovey-dovey either...methinks things are cooling down....
First off, never hit on women where they work. Second, never date women who are used to being on stage or behind a bar. They have so much experience being hit on by dudes that they're f'in pros at it man. Plus they're sure to be attention *****s.