That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
lol, I think most guys had a woman try that. Though some of us had fathers trying to counteract that "grooming".RMM said:Eh, there's this woman who kept me about 18 years under what could be best described as "near house arrest" while grooming me to be the most AFC guy ever. Guess she wanted me to become a monk or something.
Man, I did have a lot of catching up to do when I got out of there (and I didn't even know it).
Then again, this may not be what you were after in the thread
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
That is exactly why i believe that some things happen for a reason. If she had taken you back you would still be stuck with a cheater, but she left you and you improved yourself ...now you don't want her back.Bible_Belt said:
HAHA don't know how to answer that since as the guy you are suppose to chase. Being discriminatory and knowing your target is helpful I guess.DJVladdy said:
I think so too, that things happen for a reason. Sometimes, like in the case above, it sucks that you have to get burned in the process. But I am happy for the poster that because of it his life turned out for the better and he got to show her that she made a mistake. Justice was done in his case.Prodigy746 said: