TheGambino
Master Don Juan
who can explain me what the pull push technique is? I tried to understand but its still not clear
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
what is the pull push technique?
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
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who can explain me what the pull push technique is? I tried to understand but its still not clear
Me personally...Id say its over the top PUA sh1t. But you didnt ask for my opinion.
Push-Pull...when boiled down is essentially a technique to avoid overpursuit of a woman. Whats ironic is I agree with the premise of push pull and everything its about really...just not the over analyzation that comes from calling it a "technique".
When you push...you show disinterest/lack of interest
When you pull...you show interest
Its advised you tailor it to a girls actions. For instance when she does something awesome for you...you pull. When shes a brat...you push. Reward good behavior. Punish bad behavior. Sounds simple enough right? For instance, I just do it automatically...I dont need to analyze whether I need to push or pull based upon her actions...I legit just do it....its common sense to me. But this really helps the "nice guys" because they pull when they should be pushing and end up chasing the girl right out of their lives. Ill give a quick example to wrap up...
Beta guy is seeing a new HB6 and enjoys her time. HB6 enjoys BG and thinks hes a good guy. Beta guy starts texting her all the time(pull) and begins to overwhelm her. So she backs away and needs space....but BG begins to panic and texts her even more now(pulling) when he should be giving her that space(pushing) and allow her to come back chasing him.
Savy?
Me personally...Id say its over the top PUA sh1t. But you didnt ask for my opinion.
Push-Pull...when boiled down is essentially a technique to avoid overpursuit of a woman. Whats ironic is I agree with the premise of push pull and everything its about really...just not the over analyzation that comes from calling it a "technique".
When you push...you show disinterest/lack of interest
When you pull...you show interest
Its advised you tailor it to a girls actions. For instance when she does something awesome for you...you pull. When shes a brat...you push. Reward good behavior. Punish bad behavior. Sounds simple enough right? For instance, I just do it automatically...I dont need to analyze whether I need to push or pull based upon her actions...I legit just do it....its common sense to me. But this really helps the "nice guys" because they pull when they should be pushing and end up chasing the girl right out of their lives. Ill give a quick example to wrap up...
Beta guy is seeing a new HB6 and enjoys her time. HB6 enjoys BG and thinks hes a good guy. Beta guy starts texting her all the time(pull) and begins to overwhelm her. So she backs away and needs space....but BG begins to panic and texts her even more now(pulling) when he should be giving her that space(pushing) and allow her to come back chasing him.
Savy?
TheGambino
Master Don Juan
yes bro its clear now, i did and do it all the time without even noticing.. its pretty logic
Dust 2 Dust
Master Don Juan
Pretty much what Gambino said. It's a series of (common sense to me) techniques to prevent you from chasing women.
For example, she doesn't return your call, you pull back and wait for her to call you.
She declines your date offer, you pull back and see if she counter offers.
She gives mixed signals, you pull back and counter it with heightened disinterest.
She disrespects you, you pull back and freeze her out until she apologizes or you can use negs for minor infranctions.
For example, she doesn't return your call, you pull back and wait for her to call you.
She declines your date offer, you pull back and see if she counter offers.
She gives mixed signals, you pull back and counter it with heightened disinterest.
She disrespects you, you pull back and freeze her out until she apologizes or you can use negs for minor infranctions.
An important element that should be added is that women tend to rate themselves as being as hot as the hottest guy they ever bagged. So, if she's a 6, odds are in her head she thinks she's a 7.5 or an 8. You may see her for the 6 she is. Doesn't mean she sees it that way.TheException said:
You don't necessarily treat a 6 as a 6, because she tends to think higher of herself than she is. A lot of time, you end up treating a 6 as mean (if not more mean) than an 8. I can remember a chick I took on one date from PoF who did nothing but talk about how all these guys were after her. Funny thing is, I've never known a truly hot chick talk that way. It's only the ones that could be hot if they lost weight or pulled their **** together or learned how to not dress like they're in a 90s grunge band fronted by the coach of the New England Patriots.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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It's a way to make her want to sleep with you, the most effective way to neutralize her anti-s|ut defense.
Hug
Retreat
Kiss
Retreat
Makeout
Retreat
Caress
Retreat
Grope
Retreat
Fondle
Retreat
Remove cloths
Retreat
...
Sex
It's more effective when you use it right when you enter her place or yours.
Hug
Retreat
Kiss
Retreat
Makeout
Retreat
Caress
Retreat
Grope
Retreat
Fondle
Retreat
Remove cloths
Retreat
...
Sex
It's more effective when you use it right when you enter her place or yours.
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Push-pull example:
Pull - Girl grabs you, tells you she finds you sexy.
Push - Girl then tells you that you are bad for her. You'd be better off as friends. Runs off to another part of the bar.
Pull - Girl comes back and says she can't stay away, you are just too sexy.
Done effectively, you will become more and more invested in her until she can play you like a puppet. It causes all your mental energy to become focused on her because your brain is trying to figure out the dissonance.
Guys with their **** together will stay grounded in themselves and recognize the situation. When she hits you with a push, you have to push even harder. Always be willing to walk away.
EDIT: There has to be some attraction present. Push-Pull on someone who doesn't give a **** will do nothing
Pull - Girl grabs you, tells you she finds you sexy.
Push - Girl then tells you that you are bad for her. You'd be better off as friends. Runs off to another part of the bar.
Pull - Girl comes back and says she can't stay away, you are just too sexy.
Done effectively, you will become more and more invested in her until she can play you like a puppet. It causes all your mental energy to become focused on her because your brain is trying to figure out the dissonance.
Guys with their **** together will stay grounded in themselves and recognize the situation. When she hits you with a push, you have to push even harder. Always be willing to walk away.
EDIT: There has to be some attraction present. Push-Pull on someone who doesn't give a **** will do nothing