"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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What is the next step to be taken?

Mr.Skies

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Hey guys. I would like to hear your opinion regarding a girl I am interested in. I hope to hear your opinion regarding what steps I should make.

So, I was to a B-day party of a friend of mine. Most of the people there were from other another friend circle of the friend of mine. One of these people was the girl I am talking about. I didn't pay much attention to her because I spent most of my time with another girl and I didn't know the dynamics in the group so I just kept my eyes open.

After a day or two, I added her to FB. I spoke to her and I was quite energetic and very talkative so we spoke. I am pretty sure she is interested in me, judging by the tone of her messages and the fact she responded when I asked whether she is coming to a b-day party of another mutual friend of ours. She said she will come and hopes that I will come too.

Eventually, we met again on the second time on the b-day party and she was nice and her body language and the way she spoke proved another time of her interest. Later my friend, that girl and I took off and went to a dance party. She complimented on my dancing but I felt she was interested in a friend of hers (who has a gf).

I like her. I would like to go out with her again and maybe take a step further with her. My biggest problem is not getting to know girls or hitting on them, but the steps afterwards; something in me stops me from being myself, which being a out going and easy guy.
We had chat yesterday that she initiated and after some time I asked her whether she wants to hang out and she said yes. But than I take a step back again and didn't "push" it on to ask her out. I don't want to lose it :/

In bottom line, I am quite sure she has interest in me, but I need to act otherwise this will go down the drain.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Chickfight

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yeah, just ask her out for real by phone. If you don't have her phone nr, tell her to give it you.
 

RSanders219

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Hang out with her. Set up a day and time to do so.. If you're old enough in your area to head out to a bar and you like to drink, definitely do that. It will take the edge off your anxiety and help you be more yourself. DO NOT get too drunk though! :)

Afterwards, just bring her to your place sit down and relax.. Catch her off guard and give her a kiss. This will proceed into making out, feeling up etc.. Then if the both of you feel like it, sex/BJ/whatever.

If you don't like to/are not old enough to drink.. Just bring her somewhere nice. A park, the beach, go out for pizza, whatever. Just something fun and casual. Give her a hug on the end of the date, then go in for the kiss during the hug. She'll probably text you within the next half hour saying she had a great time with you.. This has worked like 9 out of 10 times for me.
 
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