"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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What is the next step to be taken?

Mr.Skies

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Hey guys. I would like to hear your opinion regarding a girl I am interested in. I hope to hear your opinion regarding what steps I should make.

So, I was to a B-day party of a friend of mine. Most of the people there were from other another friend circle of the friend of mine. One of these people was the girl I am talking about. I didn't pay much attention to her because I spent most of my time with another girl and I didn't know the dynamics in the group so I just kept my eyes open.

After a day or two, I added her to FB. I spoke to her and I was quite energetic and very talkative so we spoke. I am pretty sure she is interested in me, judging by the tone of her messages and the fact she responded when I asked whether she is coming to a b-day party of another mutual friend of ours. She said she will come and hopes that I will come too.

Eventually, we met again on the second time on the b-day party and she was nice and her body language and the way she spoke proved another time of her interest. Later my friend, that girl and I took off and went to a dance party. She complimented on my dancing but I felt she was interested in a friend of hers (who has a gf).

I like her. I would like to go out with her again and maybe take a step further with her. My biggest problem is not getting to know girls or hitting on them, but the steps afterwards; something in me stops me from being myself, which being a out going and easy guy.
We had chat yesterday that she initiated and after some time I asked her whether she wants to hang out and she said yes. But than I take a step back again and didn't "push" it on to ask her out. I don't want to lose it :/

In bottom line, I am quite sure she has interest in me, but I need to act otherwise this will go down the drain.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Chickfight

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yeah, just ask her out for real by phone. If you don't have her phone nr, tell her to give it you.
 

RSanders219

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Hang out with her. Set up a day and time to do so.. If you're old enough in your area to head out to a bar and you like to drink, definitely do that. It will take the edge off your anxiety and help you be more yourself. DO NOT get too drunk though! :)

Afterwards, just bring her to your place sit down and relax.. Catch her off guard and give her a kiss. This will proceed into making out, feeling up etc.. Then if the both of you feel like it, sex/BJ/whatever.

If you don't like to/are not old enough to drink.. Just bring her somewhere nice. A park, the beach, go out for pizza, whatever. Just something fun and casual. Give her a hug on the end of the date, then go in for the kiss during the hug. She'll probably text you within the next half hour saying she had a great time with you.. This has worked like 9 out of 10 times for me.
 
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