"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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What is the most plates you have had at one time?

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Yewki

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Kind of an ambiguous question. What's your definition of a plate? A girl you're just talking to? Been on a date with? Gotten to first base with? Banged?
 

RangerMIke

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I don't like the term plates, because it indicates that it is hard..... its not hard, you just have to be honest. Women move in and out of my casual dating circle, as I'm sure I move in and out of theirs. Right now I'm seeing 4 women, next week that will change, one I thought was gone has come back... an another I stopped seeing 6 months ago has reached out to me again. The one I've dated the longest has been about a couple of years, the shortest a couple of weeks.

My dating life is pretty normal. Had a women, flake on me Tuesday (happens to all of us...). Have a date tomorrow for the UH v. Tulane game, and another date of Sunday for a bike ride. Met a woman last week, have a date with her next Tuesday.... Met another today, Have a date with her on the 27th. At what point does a women become a 'plate'.... I don't know how to process this.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Currently have five. And this is the most I've had. It works well because two of them travel a lot and are only in town a few days a week. Another one is an anti-social pothead and is happy to meet once a week. So it feels more like two.

However, I closed a new girl at lunch today. She is sexier than all my current plates so I might drop one and replace with her... provided she isn't a pain in the ass or a flake.
 

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At one time I had 3 plates I was actively b@nging, and then another 6-7 ill the bull pin. I prefer 1-2 now or a STR or LTR. Getting old I guess.
 

Greasy Pig

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Got four at the moment and it's quite challenging schedule-wise to keep em all in rotation but fun nonetheless.
As someone on here has in their sig: Keep on spinning in a free world.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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old married dude

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I've had as many as three, but it was too exhausting in more ways than one.
 
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