Shootin4Dreams
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Curious question, wanted to see how many I could rack up at a time wanted to try for 10.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
What is the most plates you have had at one time?
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
RangerMIke
Master Don Juan
I don't like the term plates, because it indicates that it is hard..... its not hard, you just have to be honest. Women move in and out of my casual dating circle, as I'm sure I move in and out of theirs. Right now I'm seeing 4 women, next week that will change, one I thought was gone has come back... an another I stopped seeing 6 months ago has reached out to me again. The one I've dated the longest has been about a couple of years, the shortest a couple of weeks.
My dating life is pretty normal. Had a women, flake on me Tuesday (happens to all of us...). Have a date tomorrow for the UH v. Tulane game, and another date of Sunday for a bike ride. Met a woman last week, have a date with her next Tuesday.... Met another today, Have a date with her on the 27th. At what point does a women become a 'plate'.... I don't know how to process this.
My dating life is pretty normal. Had a women, flake on me Tuesday (happens to all of us...). Have a date tomorrow for the UH v. Tulane game, and another date of Sunday for a bike ride. Met a woman last week, have a date with her next Tuesday.... Met another today, Have a date with her on the 27th. At what point does a women become a 'plate'.... I don't know how to process this.
Tictac
Banned
Four and for about eight months.
Too complicated.
Too complicated.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
I got up to seven last summer, although half of them were just fb I'd see every 2-4 weeks or so.
Currently have five. And this is the most I've had. It works well because two of them travel a lot and are only in town a few days a week. Another one is an anti-social pothead and is happy to meet once a week. So it feels more like two.
However, I closed a new girl at lunch today. She is sexier than all my current plates so I might drop one and replace with her... provided she isn't a pain in the ass or a flake.
However, I closed a new girl at lunch today. She is sexier than all my current plates so I might drop one and replace with her... provided she isn't a pain in the ass or a flake.
YawataNoKami
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4 and was exhausting.
logicallefty
Moderator
At one time I had 3 plates I was actively b@nging, and then another 6-7 ill the bull pin. I prefer 1-2 now or a STR or LTR. Getting old I guess.
Greasy Pig
Master Don Juan
Got four at the moment and it's quite challenging schedule-wise to keep em all in rotation but fun nonetheless.
As someone on here has in their sig: Keep on spinning in a free world.
As someone on here has in their sig: Keep on spinning in a free world.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
old married dude
Senior Don Juan
I've had as many as three, but it was too exhausting in more ways than one.