"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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What is the fine line between a gentleman and a nice guy

antidonjuan

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What exactly are the differences? It seems like nice guy actions are quite similar to a gentleman's actions. How is it possible to flirt around with girls at the same time being a gentleman? I find being a gentleman very contradictive to acting like a DJ.

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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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antidonjuan said:
What exactly are the differences? It seems like nice guy actions are quite similar to a gentleman's actions. How is it possible to flirt around with girls at the same time being a gentleman? I find being a gentleman very contradictive to acting like a DJ.

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If by "nice guy" you're referring to AFC, I think there's a big difference.

A nice guy sucks up to women, begs for their attention, calls them all the time, does favors for them etc......

A gentleman treats women with respect, but, doesn't put up with their shyt. He simply stops giving attention. He's fun to be around, may even open doors, always very polite, but doesn't make a nuisance of himself. He doesn't chase the woman, he doesn't do her favors, he simply conducts himself with character and walks away if he's shown disrespect.
 

antidonjuan

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justiceseeker said:
If by "nice guy" you're referring to AFC, I think there's a big difference.

A nice guy sucks up to women, begs for their attention, calls them all the time, does favors for them etc......

A gentleman treats women with respect, but, doesn't put up with their shyt. He simply stops giving attention. He's fun to be around, may even open doors, always very polite, but doesn't make a nuisance of himself. He doesn't chase the woman, he doesn't do her favors, he simply conducts himself with character and walks away if he's shown disrespect.
How can doing a girl's favors be wrong? I mean, if a girl ask you to do things like borrowing money and you do it, isn't that what gentlemen do? I know that buying flowers is a no-no, but doing small favors for a woman is a wrong thing to do?
 

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A gentleman does nice things in his own terms, when HE deems it appropriate. He's is not told what or when to do it..
A nice guy does anything a girl tells them in order to gain their attention. He doesnt even recognize the phrase "on your own terms".
A gentleman would tell you to **** off if he disapproves of something.
A nice guy would let the girl walk over him.
 

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A gentleman keeps the "sex" in his actions. His charm is not being perceived as just being friendly or polite. A gentleman is his own master, a nice guy runs in danger of being mastered by the women.
Personally, I don't see your problem with being a gentleman and playing the DJ part. Use the gentleman remarks and patterns as part of your principles, make it damn obvious that it is the way you are and not just because of her. This double play of a ****y/funny DJing guy and a gentleman is worth gold.

A gentleman and DJ? James Bond ;)
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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