What is the fine line between a gentleman and a nice guy

[antidonjuan]

What exactly are the differences? It seems like nice guy actions are quite similar to a gentleman's actions. How is it possible to flirt around with girls at the same time being a gentleman? I find being a gentleman very contradictive to acting like a DJ.

Clarifications are needed

 

[justiceseeker]

What exactly are the differences? It seems like nice guy actions are quite similar to a gentleman's actions. How is it possible to flirt around with girls at the same time being a gentleman? I find being a gentleman very contradictive to acting like a DJ.

Clarifications are needed

If by "nice guy" you're referring to AFC, I think there's a big difference.

A nice guy sucks up to women, begs for their attention, calls them all the time, does favors for them etc......

A gentleman treats women with respect, but, doesn't put up with their shyt. He simply stops giving attention. He's fun to be around, may even open doors, always very polite, but doesn't make a nuisance of himself. He doesn't chase the woman, he doesn't do her favors, he simply conducts himself with character and walks away if he's shown disrespect.

 

[antidonjuan]

If by "nice guy" you're referring to AFC, I think there's a big difference.

A nice guy sucks up to women, begs for their attention, calls them all the time, does favors for them etc......

A gentleman treats women with respect, but, doesn't put up with their shyt. He simply stops giving attention. He's fun to be around, may even open doors, always very polite, but doesn't make a nuisance of himself. He doesn't chase the woman, he doesn't do her favors, he simply conducts himself with character and walks away if he's shown disrespect.

How can doing a girl's favors be wrong? I mean, if a girl ask you to do things like borrowing money and you do it, isn't that what gentlemen do? I know that buying flowers is a no-no, but doing small favors for a woman is a wrong thing to do?

 

[n00bPimp]

A gentleman does nice things in his own terms, when HE deems it appropriate. He's is not told what or when to do it..
A nice guy does anything a girl tells them in order to gain their attention. He doesnt even recognize the phrase "on your own terms".
A gentleman would tell you to **** off if he disapproves of something.
A nice guy would let the girl walk over him.

 

[Grizou]

A gentleman keeps the "sex" in his actions. His charm is not being perceived as just being friendly or polite. A gentleman is his own master, a nice guy runs in danger of being mastered by the women.
Personally, I don't see your problem with being a gentleman and playing the DJ part. Use the gentleman remarks and patterns as part of your principles, make it damn obvious that it is the way you are and not just because of her. This double play of a ****y/funny DJing guy and a gentleman is worth gold.

A gentleman and DJ? James Bond