"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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What is the deal with this girl?

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I met a girl on a trip. During the night of our hotel stay, we had a party. We played games together in a group. I injured two of my fingers during the party.

Next day when we were having breakfast in the restaurant, she waved at me and I waved back. Later, when she was walking past me, she stopped and gave me two bandages and said she know I hurt my fingers last night. I accepted them and said thank you. After that, I noticed her looking at me a lot.

When the trip was over, I found her on facebook and added her. We messaged for a bit, and I said that I didn't get the chance to get her number during the trip, and if she text, I will text her instead. I basically hint at her for her number. She has read my message, but didn't reply back.

I know I should had gone up to her and got her number during the trip. Learned my mistake.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Raymond said:
I know I should had gone up to her and got her number during the trip. Learned my mistake.
Answered you own question. Then you chased her over FB, and asked for her number in a weaker position.
 

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She has also disappeared from my facebook chat sidebar, but is still friend with me.

Edit: reappeared, maybe fb is just weird.
 
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inkedDJ said:
Answered you own question. Then you chased her over FB, and asked for her number in a weaker position.
Yeah, I know. I will not make the same mistake in the future.
 

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I don't think she would have given you her number in person either

if she wanted you to have it, you'd have it.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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That's what baffle me. Why was she showing interests if she's not interested.

This has happened to me many times. Girls showing interests, but when I move forward, I get rejected.
 

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Give it time. You already messed it up, so just wait till she replies and be done with it if she doesn't.

She may respond due to the attention she had during said trip, but do not let it take much time or her interest would decrease to zero.
 
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