"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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What is the best way..?

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to ask a girl if she and another guy are "involved?" I have a pretty good feeling they are, but I don't want to seem overbearing by asking her (or the guy) straight up. I'm friends with both of them, but they spend a lot of time together by themselves.

She has denied any interest in this guy.. but I have a feeling they're hiding something.

ps i'm obviously interested in this girl. she likes me, but I don't know on what level.
 

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Well start getting her to hang with you and ask her out on a date once you've built up the interest level enough. Make sure she knows its a date too. Just be careful your not pursuing a Queen Bee, a chick who keeps a bunch of guys around to do things for he like a bunch of drones.

I would admonish you not directly ask because the game is up at that point and she will know that you like her. Depending on what type of girl she is, and wether or not she is flaky that could be a deal breaker.

The best way is to hang out, but make sure you begin to shift the interest by getting her to call you more often, and not to jump at every single chance to please her. Become a challenge and a mystery, if you need advice on that read the DJ Bible.

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Originally posted by California Love
you shouldn't ask her in the first place. Be confident and don't inquire on anything regarding other guys.
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'zactly. If she doesn' mention him, or start kissing him or anythign like that in public, then she's not with him.
 
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Our American friends have a crude, but apt phrase for this situation:

'Make the hoe say no'.

Until she explicitly mentions any attachments, you simply assume she is available. Generally when women want to put men off, they won't do it directly by saying 'I have a boyfriend' because they don't want to risk the fact that YOU might not be interested.

They will just talk about 'my boyfriend' a lot, or they'll say 'we did x and then we did y', where the 'we' is the clue. Until you start hearing all this, don't worry.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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