"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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What is the best time to exchange numbers OLD

Epicwinguy

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I am mostly talking about Tinder. I am supposed to get that number pretty quickly in the conversation, but exactly how soon? And also, I read about a strategy where you give them your number and it weeds out the low interested women, but isn't this a bit risky since it leave you open to getting hacked?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Bible_Belt

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I don't use Tinder, but on POF, I will say very quickly, "Hey I don't have pof on my phone. If you give me your number, we can text." And that is true, I don't. It is technically possible to run phone apps on a desktop pc, so you could still say that about Tinder.
 

Konada

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In my experience, numbers mean sh!t nowadays. Most girls would gladly give you their number in hopes that you give them more attention without any intention of hanging out with you. In this case, I'd agree with Espi to put the cart before the horse.

"Let's go for a drink. Drop me your number and I'll text you soon."
 

resilient

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In my experience, numbers mean sh!t nowadays. Most girls would gladly give you their number in hopes that you give them more attention without any intention of hanging out with you. In this case, I'd agree with Espi to put the cart before the horse.

"Let's go for a drink. Drop me your number and I'll text you soon."
Seriously, getting texts from guys these days seems to provide as much attention-validation as going out on dates these days. o_O
 

El Payaso

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When you feel you've built a decent rapport.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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SgtSplacker

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I'll ask for the number after I have had the chance to ask a couple questions and the answers satisfy me. I make sure she realizes my approval and sees my interest growing then I ask.

Ask question, approve and amplify, repeat, repeat. Ask for number.

I control the interaction, I ask questions and screen them while keeping it light. I ask for the number. If she declines. I'll say well that's ok maybe we'll chat again sometime. I'll never say hi again unless she initiates. Sometimes they will give me their number next day or in a couple days. Women don't know what they want initially, sometimes you have to let them realize what they might just loose.
 
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