"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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what is the 3s rule

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I keep coming across it here. but it won't let me search for "3s rule". I'm guessing its 3 seconds something?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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minute u see a girl you think is attractive, approach her immediately. Basically you have 3 seconds to decide. Don't abide by the 3's rule, and you'll never improve as a dj.
 

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Originally posted by Wiesman44
minute u see a girl you think is attractive, approach her immediately. Basically you have 3 seconds to decide. Don't abide by the 3's rule, and you'll never improve as a dj.
errr.... where did u come up with this no-sence from?

There are MANY other ways that one can "improve as a dj"! :mad:

This 3 second rule is just a guide and is there to help us "improve as a dj", but if one doesnt "abide" by it, that will NOT cause him to "never be able to improve as a dj" ...

Wiesman44: i suggest u think wisely before posting such b.s.

Laterz...
 

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Please keep your negative opinions to yourself.
 

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Ya know Im not with the 3 second rule....Sometimes you need a quick moment, 10 to 15 seconds to assess the situation and determine a course of plan to take it from there. Sometimes you can wing it in 3 seconds and go for it, but sometimes you need 15 seconds to assess the situation and come up with a plan.

I would look at the 3 second thing as a metaphor for getting off your azz and going for it quickly....
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Originally posted by myfriendblu
Ya know Im not with the 3 second rule....Sometimes you need a quick moment, 10 to 15 seconds to assess the situation and determine a course of plan to take it from there. Sometimes you can wing it in 3 seconds and go for it, but sometimes you need 15 seconds to assess the situation and come up with a plan.

I would look at the 3 second thing as a metaphor for getting off your azz and going for it quickly....
The whole idea behind the 3 second rule is to learn by instinct. What you're doing is prepping, and the longer you prep the more time you have to think about the negative consequences.

When you can do the 3 second rule you make the skills 2nd nature and go by instinct.
 

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Originally posted by Vincent
The whole idea behind the 3 second rule is to learn by instinct. What you're doing is prepping, and the longer you prep the more time you have to think about the negative consequences.

When you can do the 3 second rule you make the skills 2nd nature and go by instinct.
Agreed there...i think the 3 second rule is for the newbies. I think once your experienced and don't ponder over details you can get more advanced in your game and come up particular ways/lines of action. You can prep yourself.
 
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exactly, I a newb myself and I started noticing that 3s makes a nice drill/exercise since after 3 seconds the energy changes from just looking to:"whats going on". I did a lot of eyecontacting since I got into this stuff and when a woman holds eyecontact its normally after three seconds that the interaction changes. Eventhough my gut tells me its time, Im still gathering gut to take the interaction to the next level.
If everytime Id look in a girls eyes would result in her holding eyecontact id be much better drilled by now.

I say women do look but hardly hold eyecontact. my experience is 1/20 would

And no I dont stalkerlook
 

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Originally posted by seize_the_pattern
exactly, I a newb myself and I started noticing that 3s makes a nice drill/exercise since after 3 seconds the energy changes from just looking to:"whats going on". I did a lot of eyecontacting since I got into this stuff and when a woman holds eyecontact its normally after three seconds that the interaction changes. Eventhough my gut tells me its time, Im still gathering gut to take the interaction to the next level.
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Exactly....Its a good drill to improve your game. I equate the 3's rule to getting out of bed early when you don't have to. Every signal in your entire body is telling you to lay there and go back to sleep, but yet you "FORCE" yourself outta bed with every muscle fiber you have. The 3 second drill is a way of getting you out of the habit of laying around and doing nothing to becoming a man of action. It forces you to react. Its good for newbies, but i still must say, its for newbies only. It has lots of drawbacks. Every situation is unique. Once your game is solid, you don't stumble over what/when to say. So you don't need to be forced to say anything. So when your good, you can take 10 or so seconds or more to come up with a witty, C+F plan to CA a chik. Often if Im gonna CA a chik I see in a bookstore for example, I will take a few seconds to assess the situation, and wait for an opening. Like a lion hunting down a gazelle. The lion doesn't run about the jungle everywhere chasing down every gazelle. He sees the prey, and assesses the perfect opening angle.

I think the problem newbies have is that they don't react AT ALL and often over analyze everything. So the 3 second rule helps them break out of that habit. Once you get good though you realize that the 3 second rule has limitations, and forces you to make the best out of mostly unidealistic approaches.
 
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Originally posted by no_problems
I keep coming across it here. but it won't let me search for "3s rule". I'm guessing its 3 seconds something?
ahh tiz a mystery. I will put you onto the right track to solve your problemo:


The answer you seek can actuall be found in:


THE BIBLE!!!!!!

OK !!!!!!

You just told me and everyone on here after all of the stickys and all of the posts about how you should read the bible before posting and all of the fights and comments and all of it...

That there are still people who are not :

1. Doing a simple search for info

2. Reading the bible.

WOW it was very hard for me not to put some curse words in this post. I am struggling very hard not to smart of here and make a crack at you but I will leave it at that.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Originally posted by no_problems
I keep coming across it here. but it won't let me search for "3s rule". I'm guessing its 3 seconds something?
from the time you isolate her and gotten her horny and/or drunk,

you have 3 seconds to get in her pzssy.

okay you know I am joking right.;

read the bible
 

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Re: Re: what is the 3s rule

Originally posted by KnightRyder
from the time you isolate her and gotten her horny and/or drunk,

you have 3 seconds to get in her pzssy.

okay you know I am joking right.;

read the bible
lol:p U seem to lack brains, but at least u have a good sence of humour:rolleyes:

I guess u ALSO aknowlege that i'm joking too;)
 
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