AlmostThere!
Senior Don Juan
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I think it's more than confidence. Can a guy have swagger wearing a button down shirt and nice shoes? Or does it require a baseball cap pulled to the side and jewelry?
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You're not serious right? Where the hell did you come up with that definition? You obviously have very little grasp on American culture. And you think Kanye is "every suburban American boy's hero"? He's a joke now, some people still like his music but nobody respects him as a person. American people are very into Lil Wayne, not so much Kanye.BigJimbo said:Swagger is an urban American slang term for men who like larger middle-aged woman (?) who wear trashy clothing (i.e. Kanye West). I don't have any and pray to God that it never gets close to me.
Every suburban American boy's hero and his...uh...
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If you guys find that beast attractive I give up.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
LOL. And some of us are into neither because we are adults. Swagger is just your personal confident style. Which is why you hear the word "my" usually preceding it. So on the morning when you feel like a million bucks and dress like your version of a million bucks and walk like your version of a million bucks, that's your swagger.Exhumed said:American people are very into Lil Wayne, not so much Kanye.