"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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What is Suave

dcfball

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What is Suave?

What does it mean to be suave? According to Webster's, it is "smoothly affable and polite though often without deep interest or sincerity.... Superficially gracious in manner". It is a term most often used in reference to men, not women.

Many different men have been considered suave: Cary Grant. Rudolph Valentino. Ralph Feinnes. Richard Gere. Robert Redford. George Clooney. Rhett Butler. James Bond. Don Juan. Or even Fabio. They are all suave, yet each is unique, and different types of women are attracted to them.

So what does a man have (or not have) that makes him suave. There are certain personal characteristics that often go along with being suave:

Affability; charm
Wit or mental quickness
Sexiness and/or sensuality
Impeccable social skills and manners
Often classically good-looking
Charming
Ability to make most women feel special

Men who are suave always seem to know what to say. They are, however, often considered insincere and superficial. They are willing to say or do anything to make a good impression, particularly on women. They are often known for their seduction skills. Many women seem to be attracted to them, even when they recognize that the men do not have serious romantic intentions.

There are several major criteria for considering someone "suave". One is a man's ability to seduce women. The second is his knowledge of social etiquette.

The "art of seduction" is an age-old phrase for the ways both women and men seduce the opposite sex. There are several stereotypes for how to successfully seduce a woman:

Be romantic
Be attentive, have good listening skills
Make women feel sexy and beautiful
Ask questions about her, don't talk too much about yourself
Exude self-confidence without arrogance
Be sexy, sensuous
Do and say things to make her feel special

Social etiquette is another characteristic of being suave - knowing how to treat a woman when taking her out. It is simple, but some men don't "get it". The keys to a successful date are...

Be chivalrous and considerate
Be polite
Maintain eye contact
Ask questions
Compliment her, but don't overdo it
Keep conversation going
Keep it lighthearted and fun

A key to being successful at suave-ness is to know the difference between sexy and cheesy. A "real" suave man is sophisticated and gentile. Being attentive to the emotional and physical needs of women is the key. Gentleness and consideration will get you further than being overbearing and pushy. Confidence is appealing, arrogance is not.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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chicksrock

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Great Post! ! :)
Very Important information there!
 

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Originally posted by dcfball
bump!
lmao, you bumped your own thread!!!

hahahahaha
 

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Originally posted by dcfball
A "real" suave man is sophisticated and gentile. Being attentive to the emotional and physical needs of women is the key. Gentleness and consideration will get you further than being overbearing and pushy. Confidence is appealing, arrogance is not.
Couldn't have said it better myself. I never understood what people meant when they called me Don Juan... until I looked into it ;)
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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