“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Okay I am going to the movies tommorow night with a cute 21 year old and we are getting drunk before hand...(for a laugh) we have been to the movies before and we enjoy each other's company and get on really well, but she is seeing another dude, (I think they are still on I'm not really sure she hasn't said anything).

She has told me that we are friends (in front of her BF while ignoring him no less... ) anyways I don't really want a r/ship with this girl (If it happened great but I'm not sure I'd trust her) but I do find her sexually attractive and was just looking for advice...do friends actually go out on Friday Night's?...(that's date night right? and why me over the dude she is seeing?)

She has txted me a lot this week and has called me as well.

She has invited me to her place before the movie...so any advice fellas?...I just plan to play it cool and see what happens.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Attention whore by the sounds of it.. I know one that does the same kind of stuff to me, we've done date kinda things plenty of times and held hands but when I tried to kiss her I got 'I already have a bf, we're friends' :rolleyes:

Shes leading you on because she enjoys your company, either use her as practice and like an experiment to try new date ideas and don't think of her as more than a flirty friend, or forget her.

Either way, think about the stuff shes doing with you and consider whether you would want your gf to be doing that kind of stuff with other guys then decide whether you really want to get with her or not.. I know I sure wouldn't with that kind of girl, if she wound up with a guy 'friend' who was forward and pushy you'd be in a lot of pain.
 

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Originally posted by arutha
Attention whore by the sounds of it.. I know one that does the same kind of stuff to me, we've done date kinda things plenty of times and held hands but when I tried to kiss her I got 'I already have a bf, we're friends' :rolleyes:

Shes leading you on because she enjoys your company, either use her as practice and like an experiment to try new date ideas and don't think of her as more than a flirty friend, or forget her.

Either way, think about the stuff shes doing with you and consider whether you would want your gf to be doing that kind of stuff with other guys then decide whether you really want to get with her or not.. I know I sure wouldn't with that kind of girl, if she wound up with a guy 'friend' who was forward and pushy you'd be in a lot of pain.
Well now wait a second, from what you've posted, I would agree that you did deal with an attention *****, if she was holding hands, flirting with you etc. But it sounds like our thread starter hasn't experienced any of that. If they are just going out then there's nothing wrong with that. If she's not physically flirting with you, or making it clear in other ways, I think that you are just her friend, and she considered you that way.
And yes, friends do go out on friday nights. And there's isn't a such thing as "date night".
All the behaviors you've said she was exhibiting are no more than what any other friend would exhibit.
If she's an attention *****, then any girl who wants to be just friends is an attention *****...and that's just silly.
 

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Man, I love having a pet dog. I love how it looks at me when I eat food, wanting a piece of it. I love how my pet dog goes where I want it to go. I'd never have sex with it cause it's just gross, but damn it's cute when it begs at me, wanting affection and food. I give it affection and food, but I freely ignore it when I got a ho to fancy with.

Remember, REAL DJs obey US, the fake ones follow Black_Italian
 

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Originally posted by nishbuk
Well now wait a second, from what you've posted, I would agree that you did deal with an attention *****, if she was holding hands, flirting with you etc. But it sounds like our thread starter hasn't experienced any of that. If they are just going out then there's nothing wrong with that. If she's not physically flirting with you, or making it clear in other ways, I think that you are just her friend, and she considered you that way.
And yes, friends do go out on friday nights. And there's isn't a such thing as "date night".
All the behaviors you've said she was exhibiting are no more than what any other friend would exhibit.
If she's an attention *****, then any girl who wants to be just friends is an attention *****...and that's just silly.
Yeah good point.. I got on the points about them getting drunk together, and going back to her place. Its possible that she is, but also possible that she is just being a friend.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Honestly, yes, friends do go out on friday nights, that is the only way I can see some of my friends other than at school, even if they have b/fs, they either dont tell the b/f, or they tell him and he dont care. As long as she is not trying to hold hands and get you too close to her (as if the two of you were in a relationship), she is acting like a friend, if she starts holding your hand, but wont let you kiss her, then she is an attention wh0re
 
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